How much work goes into any type of relationship? This ultimately depends on the results you are looking for.
Take for example an overgrown garden. In order to get the garden at a manageable state, there will be work involved. There will be weeding, pruning, digging, planting, fertilization, and the list goes on. All of this needs to be done to enjoy the fruits of your labors. Just when you think you can sit back and watch your garden grow, there will be maintenance. An immense amount of TLC is involved if you desire a healthy garden. It takes time and effort, trial end error, sweat and tears !
A taken in hand relationship is not served to you on a silver platter, far from it. Relationships, whether they are Taken in Hand or otherwise are not static. They are living, breathing, elastic, energetic forces. Therefore, once everything is in order, regular maintenance, re-evaluation, open discussions are essential to a healthy Taken in Hand relationship.
The taken in hand relationship is personal for everyone, therefore you and only you can set the groundwork. What works for the goose does not necessarily work for the gander as they say. Play with it, experimentâ€¦ and make the work turn into fun and enjoyment.
Don't be afraid of that four letter word. The work is were all the fun is hiding. Work means discovery, exchange, liberation, energy, passion, understanding, bonding, learning and so, so much more.