Single men sometimes say that they would never countenance marrying a resistant woman, and that what they are looking for is a meekly obedient, submissive woman. When they meet a strong, spirited high-dominance woman who is not meekly, sweetly submissive from the outset, they write her off and move on to the next woman.
Perhaps these men don't want a Taken In Hand relationship, as it appears, but if they do, then rejecting all these women may be a huge mistake. Taken In Hand inclined women are not generally meekly submissive by default, but they do want to be brought to submission by the right man. And when they have been mastered by the right man, many of them precisely blossom into the peaceful, obedient, even submissive woman that these men are looking for.
The Taken In Hand wife you might see serenely gliding about the room so meekly submissively serving her beloved husband as you dine together at their home was probably very different when they first met. At that time, she was probably wilful, proudly independent, and might well have been appalled had anyone suggested that she might one day serve and submit to a man. But the man she married kindly, calmly, firmly, submitted her. As their relationship progressed, his active control of her brought her to submission—to that serene submissive state you see her in now. And if there is ever any need for further action to keep her in hand, her husband will act, bringing her back into submission. And this is precisely what makes their home so enviably serene. Were her husband not prepared to take the necessary action to actively control her on an on-going basis, she would never have been able to reach her current state of peaceful submission.
Taken In Hand women need a man who does not resent (or indeed reject altogether!) the idea of on-going action to control her. All single men wanting a Taken In Hand relationship need to understand this. To expect a woman to be meekly obedient at the very start of a relationship, before you have even got married, is unrealistic. It also guarantees that no Taken In Hand woman will want you, because it appears that you are not very take-charge, and that you have no heart for the reality of actually controlling her in real life.
I was watching Dog Whisperer the other day. For those who don't know, it is a TV programme that follows dog behaviourist Cesar Millan as he meets unbalanced, troublesome or disturbed dogs and their owners and, using his kind, gentle, firm, calm assertiveness, he—as he puts it—rehabilitates dogs and trains people. He helps owners to become calm assertive pack leaders able to submit their dogs into a calm submissive state. No dog is too difficult for Cesar Millan to handle. No matter how severe the case, no matter how aggressively dominant the dog is, Cesar calmly, confidently, and with gentle firmness puts the dog into a calm submissive state and brings balance to the dog-owner relationship. At the end of the process, a dangerous “red zone” ultra-aggressive, dominant dog is now a peaceful, happy, submissive dog that obeys its owner.
When a single man says that he wants a meekly submissive woman rather than one who needs to be taken in hand and brought to submission, I find myself thinking of Cesar Millan, and asking myself what would happen if Cesar Millan were to decide that he would only deal with dogs that are already meekly submissive.
Women, like dogs, can be brought to that peaceful, happy submissive state of balance and serenity. A woman loves only her master—the one who has mastered her and brought her to submission—the one who masters her.
If you are a man in search of a woman with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, and you reject any woman who isn't meekly submissive by default—anyone who needs to be taken in hand and mastered—you almost guarantee that you will never be able to create a Taken In Hand relationship. Instead, enjoy and welcome the process of mastering the wonderful spirited woman you meet who is not in the slightest bit submissive but who wants a Taken In Hand relationship. It is that very woman who may ultimately be the most deeply submitted to you.