Taken in Hand is not a lifestyle. Rather it is the normality for which man and woman were created to live together in harmony.
The naturally occurring routine explains the “Wow!” when a couple stumbles upon a Taken in Hand relationship. Suddenly, previously incomprehensible parts of a marital jigsaw puzzle seem to magically float into place.
Taken in Hand is about taking a woman in hand for the purpose of conceiving a marriage. During the process, she will suffer the pangs of penetration and birth. Only, in this case, the man breaks the woman's mental hymen and impregnates her with an intimate bonding from which is born a marriage greater than vows and coitus alone can ever hope to duplicate.
She emerges as a new creature—released from the bondage of the dragon that protected her before meeting the knight that would set her free. From the pain of his control of her there emerges peace within, domestic tranquility without, and stability for all to see, admire, and even envy.
The need within the woman for this level stability is so visceral as to defy attempts to explain it. Conversely, efforts to conspicuously avoid being Taken in Hand warp some women to the point that—with due respect accorded to psychotherapist and author John Gray—these vociferous and nefarious creatures appear to come from Pluto rather than Venus.
Continuing to borrow liberally from Gray's less offensive insights, Taken in Hand allows men to fix-it and women to experience the cleansing well. Women in Taken in Hand relationships understand the power of tears in keeping a woman sane at those times when it appears that the gods have indeed conspired against her.
At the same time, being able to take his woman in hand allows men to keep from hibernating in their emotional caves—while leaving the woman to keep up appearances, before finally calling it quits (frequently by filing for divorce) as she gives up on becoming the woman she was intended to become.
When the bright sunshine and floating steps of romance would normally give way to painful disillusionment and coagulate into the haunting emotional midnight of misery—the stage in which most divorces occur—Taken in Hand brings about an awakening to realize the gift and potential within the marriage of two otherwise ordinary people as they become something greater than the mere sum of their individual selves.
The couple nourishes each other as nature intended. They can do what all couples start out doing—living on their love for each other against all odds.