Why do you consider such a wide variety of relationships to be Taken In Hand?
Readers often seem puzzled by articles I put up: these posts seem to those readers to be nothing to do with what those readers think Taken In Hand is about.
For example, many see Taken In Hand as being DD, some see it as D/s, and some assert that it is about BDSM—despite the fact that I myself don't think it is any of those things, and I knew nothing of those things when my ideas were forming. The idea that this is an offshoot of one of those things is entirely false, though I can understand the desire of some in these communities to take credit for these ideas.
Some think that Taken In Hand is exclusively about male-led relationships in which the man is a gentleman and would not dream of hitting his wife; others can't understand why I put up posts from individuals who think like that.
Some see it as a relationship between two strong individuals, with the man being stronger; of these individuals, some enjoy violent interactions, whereas others' dynamics are more about friendly psychological battling and less about physical battles.
Some readers speak of Taken In Hand as being about relationships between alpha males and alpha females; others think of Taken In Hand as being about traditional relationships. Some see it as being about TPE/“absolute power” relationships; to others, that is positively frightening; some like the “surrendered wife” idea; others are drawn to the Genesis 3:16 idea. Some enjoy the husband-in-charge idea as part of their Jewish or Christian observance. For others, Taken In Hand is more about transgression. And there are many more possible categories, and many differences even within each of these rough categories.
Why do I consider so many different types of relationship to be Taken In Hand? Because I think in terms of the underlying dynamics, not the overt form they take. In all cases:
- they both wholeheartedly want this rather than suffering it as un unpleasant duty or burden
- the husband is in charge—to his wife's delight
- the husband puts his wife and their relationship first rather than being purely self-serving
What do all the different types of Taken In Hand relationship have in common?
The subjection of women
Who says you have to be submissive?
The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance
Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?
Domestic discipline (DD)
The importance of conquest
The resistant woman
Asserting dominance physically forcefully
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