Why are Taken In Hand relationships so intimate and connected?

Why do couples tend to find that their relationship becomes more connected and intimate when they begin to move into a Taken In Hand relationship?

For many drawn to Taken In Hand, taking their relationship in a Taken In Hand direction feels so right and so good (despite the many problems there may be in making this change) that there is a deep sense of peace, a feeling of relief and joy, renewed love and intense passion.

When they move their relationship in a Taken In Hand direction, the spouses tend to feel deep gratitude to each other. They tend to have more fun together. They tend to find more pleasure in conversing with each other, doing stuff together, and their sexual connection is seriously intensified.

Taken In Hand dynamics facilitate problem-solving and reduce or eliminate any power struggles, fighting or bickering there may have been. The less bad feeling there is in a relationship, and the more good feeling, the more intimacy and connection is possible, because the individuals more and more want to please each other, and they are less and less defensive and confrontational with each other.

Intimacy and connection also tends to improve when the sex life of a couple improves, and for those drawn to Taken In Hand, taking their relationship in this direction typically dramatically improves their desire for each other and thereby their sex life.

Taken In Hand requires deep trust on both sides, and the more each person trusts the other, the more intimate the relationship can be.

previous | FAQ index | next

Taken In Hand Tour start | next

[This is an answer to a frequently-asked question: this page is part of the FAQ. Please try to ensure that your post is answering the question or discussing the above post. The question is: Why do couples tend to find that their relationship becomes more connected and intimate when they begin to move into a Taken In Hand relationship?]

Comments

For us, I believe that it is

For us, I believe that it is the intense trust that leads to the high level of intimacy and connectedness. The fact that I trust my husband enough to give my power over to him shows him that I recognize him for the strong, intelligent and powerful man that he is. When my husband makes decisions for me and for our family I feel loved and adored, and it makes me want to do anything to please him.