In the modern Western world, many men feel shackled and blocked by society's dictates and the double standards they have to adhere to where women are concerned. In your average relationship in which all decisions must be mutual, the man's freedom is limited: he can't express his natural assertiveness and dominance without attracting his partner's ire. Men in ordinary modern relationships constantly come up against limits, boundaries, and constraints. The kind of relationship discussed on Taken In Hand sweeps all that away, freeing the man to act as he sees fit.
Being in this kind of relationship makes me feel free. Because my decisions go, I have the power to direct events, something I find liberating. I believe that most men who live in the modern world in a “normal” relationship would find this freeing. Going from ordinary relationships to a relationship in which you are the head of the household and your partner is submissive to you is the most incredibly liberating, freeing experience a man can have. It makes me feel King of the World.
Being able to express my assertiveness instead of keeping it firmly in check in accordance with modern women's demands makes me feel fully alive and free for the first time, as though I have arrived as a real man—powerful, effective in the world, and a success.
When you have the freedom to make all the decisions affecting your life, you feel free to pursue your goals, you feel effective, you feel that nobody is holding you back, stopping you get where you want to be.
With all the above said, what remains is perhaps the finest part of all—you feel appreciated and loved by the woman. You feel accepted and in control. Lady readers: don't underestimate the importance of making a man feel accepted and appreciated. If you want your partner to change, you're not accepting him for what he is. When my girlfriend J looked me in the eye and agreed to obey my decisions, I felt ten feet tall. I felt deeply peaceful, with something of a high. For the first time in my life, someone was accepting and appreciating me for the man that I am, for being a man, giving me the freedom to make the decisions I want to make.
That J trusts me with this level of decision-making makes me feel fantastic. I feel a sense of gratitude for this level of trust. Other men are shackled and constrained by their partners' demands; I am truly free. I have a woman whose trust in me and belief in me is absolute. I have a woman who loves me enough to have set me free.
What more could any man ask for?