What Taken In Hand has done for our marriage

Since my husband acted to end the downward spiral of resentment and recriminations that was our marriage, our lives have been turned around. Only a few months ago we were barely speaking to each other, and when we did, it was to attack. Like I've heard is the case for many, when I first asked him to take me in hand, nothing happened, but then suddenly one day something snapped in him and he put me over his knee and spanked me so hard it shocked me.

That was only a few months ago but my, how things have changed. He wants to spend time with me now, where before, he spent all his time in the basement avoiding me. He pays so much more attention to me then previously, noticing when I've made the effort to dress femininely for him or when I've made a special effort to bake his favorite pie. He looks at me the way he looked at me when we first met – he really looks at me. I feel he sees me now where before, he seemed to look right through me or past me.

He's become a real gentleman, taking care of my needs, very respectfully. He smiles at me and seems to enjoy being with me again. When he takes me out he helps me on and off with my coat. I feel so proud to be with him! I can see other women looking envious when they see how he treats me like a princess. Since I asked him to take me in hand and be the master of the house, he's started making decisions more, and he's become much more confident in this – a much better leader – and this, I find sexy, so our love life is way better than before. I have a new respect for him as the head of our household, I have a new love for him as my husband, and I have this renewed desire for him as a man. In fact, we're like newlyweds again.

My husband has always been a good dad but now he's a great one. He is so much more involved with the kids, now, so everybody's happy.

This has changed my whole outlook on life. Where before, I felt a failure, unworthy, distrustful, unattractive, now I feel good about myself. I feel attractive, I feel loved, cherished, and worthy of that love. I deeply trust my husband and feel he trusts me too. I feel a sense of belonging to him I've never felt before. He's my husband, and I belong to him now. Before, I belonged only to myself and felt hurt by his coldness and his long sulks and angry outbursts. He was hurting too because I was not submitting to him but we didn't know this until things turned around for us. Hindsight is 20-20.

He'll say I'm more respectful and no longer make snide remarks to him. Most of all, I trust him and love him more than I ever thought I could love and trust anyone. That's what Taken In Hand has done for us.

Tammy

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This sounds like a love letter

This sounds like a love letter – has your husband read it yet?

~ Bonnie

by bonnie on 2004 Mar 29 - 01:10 | reply to this comment

Tammy, Thanks!

Tammy,

Thanks for that article. It really does sound like my boyfriend and I at one moment of our lives. Although our romantic decline was never as severe as yours, we would argue a lot of the time and our relationship has been on-and-off for the past 6 years. After I told him of my desire of a "suzie homemaker" role, and we spoke of things such as spankings, things turned around for us. Where there was a constant sense of foreboding when we saw each other, there is now peace/tranquility and a sense of security. For the first time in my life I knew I had found the one person I could share ANY secret with, without feeling guilt, remorse or fear. Something I have dealt with since a teenager when I started thinking of spankings....... I felt at that point in my life like such a freak/weirdo and sick for wanting something like that! I decided then to never tell anyone of this, the fact that I told J speaks volumes of my love for him.

For us the love was always there and the fact that he stayed with me for so long when I was an extreme pain in the ass, proved it to me more eloquently than words ever could. By no means is he controlling and seeing this as a means to dictate my life but rather he understands that his is something I have wanted for a very long time and most importantly something I desperately need. I have been on a self-destructive path long enough, hurting all those who care for me and now he has taken me in hand to help me become the person I am meant to be. I had my very first spanking last night and I loved him more than I ever could after it, even with the tears pouring down my face from the pain. That act alone, and the reason for it, made me see clearly just how much he loves me, wants a life for us, and will do whatever he has to do to make it a reality. I don't think I can be loved any more than that! I have found the one for me and wish for us as much happiness as you and your husband have found together.......... thanks!

Erika

by Joshuas_Harley on 2004 Jul 15 - 18:44 | reply to this comment

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