What is a Taken In Hand relationship?
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What is a Taken In Hand relationship?
A Taken In Hand relationship is a wholehearted sexually exclusive marriage in which, to the delight of both spouses, the man actively controls the woman. The degree of control and the way the husband retains control vary from Taken In Hand couple to Taken In Hand couple, but in all cases both husband and wife actively want the husband to be in charge. No matter how strong, tough and forceful a Taken In Hand wife may be, and no matter how hard she might try to take control in their marriage, she would be aghast if her husband were to let her get the upper hand. Likewise, no matter how loving, kind and considerate the husband may be, he prefers to keep his wife firmly in hand.
The woman is unlikely to identify with the word ‘submissive’, and especially at the beginning of the relationship may need to be thoroughly conquered. The man wears the trousers but he puts the relationship and his wife first. His control is active and ongoing rather than passive or a one-off.
See also:
An overview of Taken In Hand
What you need to know about Taken In Hand
The subjection of women
Could this kind of relationship be for you?
What Taken In Hand is, and what it is not
Why do some prefer a Taken In Hand relationship to a conventional relationship?
Is a Taken In Hand relationship for everyone?
Is this really consensual?