There is a word you can use that is highly likely to give your lover an enormous amount of pleasure. It is not a word that you are likely to have difficulty bringing yourself to say. It is not a word you could not say in front of the children or your grandmother. It is not a word that would offend anyone. What is it?
Yes, you've guessed it. The word that would give so much pleasure is your lover's own name—unless you say it in the heat of passion with your husband, of course. (I jest!)
I discovered this some years ago, when I found myself feeling unaccountably drawn to a man who was pursuing me. He was rather young (fourteen years younger than I) and quite fat. Eventually, I realised that I was drawn to him because he was such a nice, warm person, and in particular, because he used my name a lot. (The fact that he had flown literally halfway around the world to meet me was neither here nor there!)
Hearing my name made me feel warm and cosy and slightly excited. I felt that his full attention was on me, that he was really interested. Using people's names gives them a feeling of visibility. It makes them feel appreciated. Try spreading a little happiness around those you love: use their name. It is such an easy and harmless way to give people joy.