I've heard this question pop up in several threads in my short time here: "What do men get from a Taken in Hand Relationship?" I'd like to offer my thoughts on this in the form of an annotated list. Hopefully this will help the women understand a bit better. It's also a good reminder for the men why we shouldn't settle for less! Here are some of the things the men get out of a Taken in Hand relationship in addition to the usual perks of a normal relationship:
Desire to protect fulfilled
I want to take care of the people I love. Watching a partner get hurt when I know I could help but they won't let me is a bad experience to go through. Conversely, protecting your partner from unecessary suffering is a -really- good feeling.
A good Taken in Hand relationship feels more solid to me, somehow. Both people are open about what they need. Not only that, but I find that the (few, still) women I've been with who wanted to be taken in hand make it much clearer how much they need me. I don't consider myself any more or less jealous than the average man, but in a taken in hand relationship it almost seems foolish to even imagine my girlfriend cheating on me. Fortunately I've never had that experience, but it seems even less likely to happen in a relationship where my partner looks up to me so much. It may also make Taken in Hand women feel better to know that, for me and I would guess other men as well, the Taken in Hand power exhange makes your man feel very responsible to you. While I wouldn't cheat in a standard relationship, even the idea of being unfaithful to the one I've taken in hand repulses me.
An ego boost
Listen carefully, because most guys probably won't admit this one! Especially us proud Taken in Hand type guys, heh. Honestly, it feels good that somebody else trusts you enough to let you make important decisions for them, and counts on you to take care of them.
A lot of the women around here say that they like emotionally "strong" men. What that means certainly differs for everyone, but what being strong means to me is fighting hard for what you believe in. This too can take an almost infinite amount of different forms. In any case, sometimes my days are full of very difficult challenges, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I expect most Taken in Hand men would agree. So when the day is finally through, I just want someone there who I don't feel like I need to fight with to convince of something.
By our nature, Taken in Hand men like having control over their personal lives, just as Taken in Hand women like giving up a piece of that control. By itself this is not sexual or even romantic—some people simply like or dislike having control of certain aspects of their lives.
Taken in Hand women seem to be most often drawn to straightforward leader types. They usually also can tell the difference between confidence and arrogance, and the difference between wisdom and weakness. Society as a whole seems blind to such distinctions, and so we are often told to do things that, when it comes down to it, are arrogant or weak, and even more often told to avoid things that society tells us display arrogance or weakness but in fact come from confidence or wisdom. If you recognize the difference between the two, Taken in Hand men will definitely appreciate it!
That Special Something
I think it's good to explore why we have this desire for Taken in Hand relationships... however, it's also important to remember that when you're right in the middle of something that really turns you on, you aren't thinking "I like this situation because it makes me feel more comfortable about blah blah blah", you're thinking "Wow." There's something too primal to explain well in a Taken in Hand relationships that just turns some men on, just like it does for some women.
And last but certainly not least, men also get..