I am an independent woman and have wanted my own way many times. In the beginning of our taken in hand relationship it wasn't easy to just hand over control to my husband because most of my life I have been a person who seems to need the control and for us this has been a process: we didn't just arrive at any particular destination.
I have recently gone into business for myself and am in charge once again new career and totally different line of work but again it places me on the frontline of leadership. I am noticing that my attitude has changed some from being at home this past year. I am getting back into working and need to reel myself in and focus on the fact that when I'm at home my husband is in charge not me. He is a born leader but that does not make me feel lesser than he, nor does it make me feel that I have lost my independence.
I am at a place in my life where I enjoy his ability to take charge and this has taken my willingness to let go of the control and even submit to him in certain instances.
For a long time I was controlling everything in my life so much that it became a huge stress and I went overboard with too much busyness and creating a health issue for myself. Since that time my husband has not allowed to me become too stressed over anything. This time I have to move slower and really think about what I am doing and realize that if I get out of control he will tug on my reins to get my attention. He is good at that.
Learning to submit to one's spouse's control is not easy in the beginning; at least, it is not easy not for me, but it has been one of the most satisfying and comforting things in my life. It is not a natural course but a process.