Today, a woman I don't know, a woman whom I have never met, a woman on the other side of the world, asked me to do something that requires a couple of hours of work. I have no hope of meeting her, no hope of seeing her face nor having so much as a smile from her.
And yet, I could not resist her request.
She wrote, “Please please please” along with fifteen other words praising me for what I had done—and asking me to do it again. The word “please”, along with her feminine writing style, gave me the energy and the desire to do as she asked.
Often, women ask without asking. How many times have we heard a woman say “the lawn needs to be mowed” or “we're running low on bread”? We're supposed to interpret this not only as a request, but as sufficient motivation to do something for her.
The resentment engendered by such statements—requests without the simple decency of requesting—can slowly poison a relationship.
”I shouldn't have to ask,” is often the retort of a woman whose unrequested request goes unfulfilled, where if she had simply said ”please”, she could have had anything she wished.
The raw power of a woman saying “please” is enough to make a man travel to the ends of the Earth—or even to the mini-mart at 3am—to retrieve the golden fleece, or gather the eggs of a chicken.
”Please” does not make one a slut. It doesn't need to be accompanied by promises of sexual pleasure. In fact “please” is much more powerful than “I'll make love to you all night long”.
”Please” creates a longing to do the thing asked, whereas “I'll make love to you all night long” creates a longing to ... well ... make love all night long. Of course, if that's what you want, you can combine the two: “Please make love to me all night long,” will probably produce the desired results (assuming you say it to your husband or lover).
But you don't have to be a wife, a lover, a slut, a whore, or a mistress to say “please”. A mother can say it to her son. A daughter can say it to her father. A sister can say it to her brother. A woman can say it to a friend, or a co-worker, or an acquaintance or even a stranger.
And it will affect him—often to the point of granting her request.
It isn't indecent; it isn't demeaning; it isn't degrading. It's just plain powerful. When I hear, or read, a woman saying “please”— with that lilt that comes only from a woman—I can't help myself. I want to please her. I want to do as she asks.
Even if the word “please” is the only reward I will ever receive.
Of course, “thank you” or “that was fabulous of you” is kinda nice too.
So, if you want something from a man, try saying “please”—in a nice way—in a feminine way. If you want that special something from him, try saying, “please take out the garbage” or “please put me over your lap and spank me.”
You might be surprised at the results.
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