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How this benefits the relationshipHe was horrified but now he is very happyHow things have changed! Embracing each other's darkest secretsDon't miss this fascinating and beautifully written article. After nearly 18 years of marriage, Melman and his wife are experimenting with a Taken in Hand relationship. Taken In Hand for the fatally flawedIn this touching article, Louise points out that you do not need to be a paragon of all known virtues for Taken In Hand to work for you. In part, Taken In Hand is, indeed, a way of positively solving problems created by our many flaws. When a man takes charge, his wife no longer rejects him sexuallyWhen Edwina and her husband discovered Taken In Hand and the idea of the wife being sexually available to the husband, the benefits were many, as this article shows. Her husband had been rather passive and tentative, and had suffered from feelings of rejection when that approach had not thrilled Edwina. The last thing many women (Taken In Hand type women, anyway) want is to be asked whether they are tired as a way of asking tentatively for sex. What they want is to be firmly taken by a man. They don't want to be in the position of giving permission, and the passivity and timidity and pathetic pleading nature of such interactions can be viscerally repulsive and result in the very rejection the man feared in the first place. A year of new managementJane M's account of her Taken In Hand journey in the last year. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! Sleeping positions, rituals and controlAnother charming piece by CarlF. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. A happy end to marital deadlockIf your marriage is charactised by cold silences and angry fights or a lot of unhappiness, is there any way Taken In Hand might save it? Alpha Husband thinks Taken In Hand can indeed solve the problem. I think it is possible, but not unless both spouses make the effort to turn towards each other. It can't be all on the man. The woman needs to make an effort too. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? Under new management... and loving it! Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. How we stopped the escalation of verbal hostilitiesHow Taken In Hand dramatically reduced the amount of negativity and increased the amount of positive communication in one marriage. Blossoming in his armsSmitten is truly smitten! When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. How our relationship has changedSometimes it is difficult to put the changes into words because many of them are quite subtle. Take her in hand without lifting a fingerForty-something wife gives an example of how Taken In Hand has worked to improve her marriage. An overview of Taken In HandAn overview of Taken In Hand, in list form, with links to further articles. We should consider ourselves so luckyThis beautiful piece by Lucy describes her quintessentially Taken In Hand relationship and the wonderful man who loves her. Essential reading! Our journey through BDSM to Taken in HandOne woman's journey from what she describes as “kinky sex” to Taken In Hand. Giving each other what we needAurora on the peace and safety of a Taken In Hand relationship. Dominant men: D/s vs. Taken In HandKiva likes the fact that Taken In Hand relationships are enjoyable for both persons. Feeling thrilled by the prospect of being taken in handSome might find it highly unreasonable to be punished for forgetfulness; others find it fun and thrilling. Equality through Taken in Hand?BlueRose has discovered an unexpected benefit of Taken In Hand: her husband is treating her better and more as an equal than he was before! The crooked path to where we areWhen you are beginning your Taken In Hand journey, think of it as a rather exciting and fun but potentially dangerous exploration in the dark, and on no account expect everything to go smoothly and fall into place instantly. Keep a sense of humour, and be prepared to backtrack and try a different route. It will take lots of feeling about in the dark to find your way, as Tevemer's fascinating account shows. My experience of taking my wife in handForty-Something Husband shares his own story of what Taken In Hand has meant to him. If you are a man new to Taken In Hand, or if you know such a man, you won't want to miss this! Getting it right takes timeWhen people discover Taken In Hand they often want to jump straight in at the deep end and make radical changes in their marriages. It really isn't that easy. It takes time and patience and lots of mistakes along the way. Thinking of it more as evolutionary changes rather than revolutionary changes is more realistic. The unexpected benefits of surrendering controlLearning to surrender control has had several pleasant side effects for Otter. For example, she is now much more relaxed and lets the future take care of itself. Power connectivityWhen Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling! Natural flowOn natural flow as opposed to unnaturally dominant or submissive behaviour, with advice to men to put the woman before their own whims, and not to expect to be in charge of everything all the time. Are you worth your weight in gold?Kat's husband is. Taken In Hand has changed our marriageHow has Taken In Hand changed your marriage? Being taken in hand was really rather superFor those for whom being taken in hand can involve being given a jolly good hiding! Wedded blissFor many couples, the move to a Taken In Hand relationship brings fewer arguments not because the woman is then silenced (she is not) but because there is more good feeling and intimacy in the relationship. How we stopped fighting and became happier togetherA week after discovering the Taken In Hand site, Louise and her husband had a terrible row. To find out how they resolved the crisis and became happier together, hit the read article link now. Being Taken In Hand doesn't mean being silentA man in control would be wise to ensure that his woman feels ‘heard’ – accepting a man's authority should not mean ceasing to have a voice in the relationship. If only one mind were doing the necessary thinking and problem-solving, the other would be superfluous. Greater humility, less defensivenessAnnie D. has been amazed to discover that Taken In Hand has made it easier for her to admit when she has been mistaken. Taken In Hand - intimacy and romanceStephen on how Taken In Hand intimacy creates lasting romance. |