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Articles about male dominanceIs it ever OK to FORCE your wife to do something?What if a wife really really doesn't want to do something her husband tells her to do? Is forcing her to do it OK in a Taken In Hand context? DeeMarie examines this important issue. My treasureDreamwalker with a delectable post on the wife as property idea. Watch what she does, not what she saysSo many women clearly respond sexually to take-charge men who take care of them and don't expect them to be equal in all ways in the relationship, while thinking that they want a pro-feminist man and a thoroughly egalitarian relationship. And when they find their egalitarian man, they don't want him! Entitled to all of her husbandAnother steamy piece by CarlF: you won't want to miss this! Romance novels, good girls and mothersAn absolutely fascinating, must-read article by CarlF. Woman whispererIf you are a single man looking for a woman with whom to develop a Taken In Hand relationship, don't reject women who need to be brought to submission. Why being married beats playing the pickup gameIn this fascinating piece, JB says that he finds marriage preferable to playing multiple women because in his Taken In Hand marriage he is firmly in control whereas in the game of pickup he felt controlled by the women and by the performance required in playing the pickup game. Circumventing consent in a Taken In Hand relationshipMen wanting to know what Taken In Hand calls for should read this post. So many Taken In Hand women wish for precisely what CarlF's wife has expressed. When a man takes charge, his wife no longer rejects him sexuallyWhen Edwina and her husband discovered Taken In Hand and the idea of the wife being sexually available to the husband, the benefits were many, as this article shows. Her husband had been rather passive and tentative, and had suffered from feelings of rejection when that approach had not thrilled Edwina. The last thing many women (Taken In Hand type women, anyway) want is to be asked whether they are tired as a way of asking tentatively for sex. What they want is to be firmly taken by a man. They don't want to be in the position of giving permission, and the passivity and timidity and pathetic pleading nature of such interactions can be viscerally repulsive and result in the very rejection the man feared in the first place. Are you getting through to her?A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know. Correcting possible misconceptions about Taken In HandThis piece by Sully is essential reading for anyone who is shocked by the idea of a Taken In Hand relationship. Saying "no" as code for "I care"In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon! "No" means "take me"The aim of "No means no!" is to give men a simple way to avoid actually raping a woman. The problem is that no does not always mean no, and the denial of that reality makes it more likely that men will make mistakes than if that reality were acknowledged. Sleeping positions, rituals and controlAnother charming piece by CarlF. Saying "no", leadership and chocolateDon't miss this brilliant piece by CarlF. I don't want to be submissive!Like many women on this site who want to be actively controlled by their man, Sully finds the idea of ‘just submitting’ (to what, exactly, if the man is not exerting control?!) decidedly unappealing. Are your labels preventing you from seeing what you have?Don't waste your life looking for something you already have, if only you could see it. A dominant man brainwashed into submissionJust as some women grow up with the idea that the desire to live under the control of a man is unacceptable and needs to be overcome, some men also grow up with the idea that the desire to be in control in a relationship is unacceptable and needs to be overcome. This website aims to promote real choice, by letting it be known that there are thousands and thousands and thousands of happy, stable, well-adjusted Taken In Hand couples out there. She may not know it yet, but I'm taking her in handIt sounds as though GreySeal's wife is very happy that he has started taking her in hand – even if she has never heard of Taken In Hand. An expression of his authorityCori appreciates her man firmly exerting his authority over her. Truth and lifeBlush on the subject of what to do if you have not managed to obey your husband to the letter despite your best efforts to do so. Taken In Hand - the view of a psychiatristIs this philosophy of intimate relationships really as bad as some self-proclaimed ‘experts’ would have us believe? A marriage of understanding, passion and pregnancyOne of the wonderful things about a Taken In Hand marriage is that the control dynamics make it possible – in some cases at least – for man and wife to be more excited by one another during pregnancy instead of less. She wants him to prevailWomen who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent. Erotic pregnancy and afterwards...Eroticising pregnancy brings husband and wife together and makes the whole experience very special. Is Taken In Hand control real?It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved. Loving, supportive and kind controlA man can feel the need to be in control without feeling any inclination for that control to be oppressive or in any way unpleasant for the woman he loves. A man in charge needs to be firm and steadyStephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand. A man with a backbone can be very soothingA Taken In Hand woman who is outraged about a decision her husband has made, may well be aghast if she succeeds in getting her man to change his decision. It can be very soothing to be with a man who holds firm and does not allow himself to be pushed about. Is it real?Louise wonders if it is real. Real what? That is the question. Being with a stronger man allows a strong woman to relaxNot to live with the fear that one might inadvertently overpower the man one loves is deeply relaxing, as Milly says. This manThis piece expresses the excitement many women feel when they are in a relationship with a man who wears the trousers. From clues to a wonderful realityA wise husband seems to have discovered that his wife needs a firm hand. Bonded by rapeWhy does this disturbing idea have such a hold over so many women? And is it only women, or does it stir the odd man here and there, too? When you've seen a happy marriage with your own eyes...... the knowledge that happy marriage is possible never leaves you. What if your wife feels scared and vulnerable?Advice for any man whose wife feels scared and vulnerable during the introduction of a Taken In Hand relationship. How are things different from before Taken In Hand?Louise says that it was when she discovered this site that she first considered the idea that it could be possible to respond pleasurably to authority rather than negatively. A man leads with love and kindnessEd has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships. Si vis pacem, para bellumIf you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance. |