Hikitty's account of her first meeting with her take-charge husband.

Don't miss this fascinating and beautifully written article. After nearly 18 years of marriage, Melman and his wife are experimenting with a Taken in Hand relationship.

Marie M on how being taken stopped her feeling bad and reconnected her and her husband in a powerfully positive way.

Ezekiel has some fabulous advice for husbands in Taken In Hand marriages.

So many women clearly respond sexually to take-charge men who take care of them and don't expect them to be equal in all ways in the relationship, while thinking that they want a pro-feminist man and a thoroughly egalitarian relationship. And when they find their egalitarian man, they don't want him!

A nice example of how a man completely confident in his masculinity was able to defuse a potentially dangerous violent encounter.

Another steamy piece by CarlF: you won't want to miss this!

When Edwina and her husband discovered Taken In Hand and the idea of the wife being sexually available to the husband, the benefits were many, as this article shows. Her husband had been rather passive and tentative, and had suffered from feelings of rejection when that approach had not thrilled Edwina. The last thing many women (Taken In Hand type women, anyway) want is to be asked whether they are tired as a way of asking tentatively for sex. What they want is to be firmly taken by a man. They don't want to be in the position of giving permission, and the passivity and timidity and pathetic pleading nature of such interactions can be viscerally repulsive and result in the very rejection the man feared in the first place.

A husband in a Taken In Hand relationship needs to get through to his wife. If he is not getting through to her, his wife needs to find a way to let him know.

In many relationships, this would be experienced negatively, but Dandelion is in a Taken In Hand relationship, and it made her positively swoon!

The aim of "No means no!" is to give men a simple way to avoid actually raping a woman. The problem is that no does not always mean no, and the denial of that reality makes it more likely that men will make mistakes than if that reality were acknowledged.

Like many women on this site who want to be actively controlled by their man, Sully finds the idea of ‘just submitting’ (to what, exactly, if the man is not exerting control?!) decidedly unappealing.

It is sometimes suggested that the control in Taken In Hand relationships is not real, but it certainly feels real to those involved.

On the joy of consensual ravishment in a Taken In Hand relationship.

Ed has some good advice for both men and women in Taken In Hand relationships.

Or is it?!

When a man is firm with her, Laura melts like butter.

If you as a man want deep peace (and a lot of fun!) in your Taken In Hand relationship, be prepared to enforce compliance.

Why are so many Taken In Hand readers uncomfortable with the idea of Taken In Hand wife as ‘slave’?

This beautiful piece by Lucy describes her quintessentially Taken In Hand relationship and the wonderful man who loves her. Essential reading!

Why many Taken In Hand couples find the idea of impregnation erotic, and how viewing impregnation, pregnancy and breastfeeding from a Taken In Hand perspective can make what could otherwise be difficult or off-putting, intensely exciting.

Why do some Taken In Hand folk love the much-maligned missionary position?

Warning: you may want to skip this provocative and daring article by LifeOfCuriosity if you have a weak heart or if you are not in a private location. However, lest that mislead you, rest assured that this article is nothing to do with casual encounters, and everything to do with the close and safe bonding of a loving relationship.

To all the men who understand: thank you. To all who don't: I hope that this will help.

Laura on what she loves about real alpha males.

Jeff describes so well that state in which a Taken In Hand woman feels safe, loved, protected, cared for, completely peaceful and driven to please him, her eyes saying “do with me what you will“, her heart open, her mind and body, his.

In a position of power, a man must be mindful of his fallibility.

When Sam talked to Missy and connected up the Taken In Hand power cord in their relationship, the energy generated was thrilling!

Most men were intimidated by Bella. But not Bobby.

If you are a woman, have you ever felt uncomfortable dating a man who expects you to serve him? Have you sometimes been a bit too giving? What do you think about this quote from Pat Allen's book Getting to “I Do”?: “A masculine-energy man does not marry a woman who gives to him, unless he is a “little boy” who wants to be mothered. A masculine man marries a feminine woman who is available to receive from him, who respects him for giving, and who knows how to give back to reward him but always a little less than she gets. [...] Masculine men like problems and challenges. They like the chase. “Little boys” like Mama to do it for them; they don't want you to ask them for anything at all.” (p. 59-60, Chapter 4, Is giving masculine or feminine?)

Does property always do what it's told? Does being a slave mean abdicating moral responsibility in the name of obedience? Why might a woman consider herself a slave, and why do Taken In Hand generally prefer not to a slave?

A man must have the capacity to look beyond himself.

For some men, the ideal relationship would be with a strong, independent, fiesty woman... who wants an even stronger man.

Is it true that a good man would not get rough with a woman who likes that? Or that women who want to be dominated are misguided and naïve and will end up getting abused? Or that they should settle for a bit of spanking, DD, or BDSM instead?

In this fabulous article, DeeMarie argues that while love and fear might be incompatible emotions for some people, for others those two things are perfectly compatible.

How nice it would be (for me, anyway!) if Taken In Hand were so much the norm that no one ever used that frightful word “lifestyle” to describe it, and explanations were unnecessary, and male authority was really in the genes, as Noone cheeringly contends…. Oh well, I can dream…

Separating sex and dominance from the rest of life seems to me a decidedly bad idea. Because male authority and control is real for Taken In Hand couples, not a game, it has the power to infuse the whole of life with an erotic charge, making life altogether more exciting and joyful. Is it any wonder Taken In Hand couples are so happy together?!

If you think that women who want to be a little afraid of their men must be in need of psychotherapy or chemical help, this article probably won't dispel your illusions. But if you are curious, hit the read article link now!

More thoughts about dominant men and the mistake some insecure men make in thinking that being dominant means being right, superior, better than women.

In a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand.