Taken In Hand - DeeMarie

Is it ever OK to FORCE your wife to do something?

Sun, 03 Aug 2008 11:20:56 -0700

What if a wife really really doesn't want to do something her husband tells her to do? Is forcing her to do it OK in a Taken In Hand context? DeeMarie examines this important issue.

"No" means "take me"

Tue, 22 May 2007 17:30:00 -0700

The aim of "No means no!" is to give men a simple way to avoid actually raping a woman. The problem is that no does not always mean no, and the denial of that reality makes it more likely that men will make mistakes than if that reality were acknowledged.

Strap-on Epiphany, by Virginia Vitzthum: a comment

Thu, 31 Aug 2006 23:07:51 -0700

DeeMarie is on the case.

Are you the Conan the Barbarian type?

Thu, 19 May 2005 02:17:31 -0700

If you're looking for a Conan the Barbarian type, the requirement that consent be explicit is a real drag. DeeMarie has some advice for any Conans out there.

Is chastity overrated?

Wed, 22 Dec 2004 04:32:21 -0800

Since this seems to be a big issue in America, and there are thousands of Americans reading this site, I am putting a slightly shortened version of DeeMarie's readers' forum post about chastity on the front page.

The importance of conquest

Tue, 21 Dec 2004 04:57:14 -0800

This brilliant article explains the need many Taken In Hand women feel to be decisively conquered by their man, and why less resistant-sounding forms of submission leave many women cold despite the fact that they do indeed want to submit to a man.

The submissive alpha female

Tue, 21 Dec 2004 01:25:32 -0800

What is a submissive alpha female (or an “alpha submissive” woman, as a reader asked)? DeeMarie has the answer!

Has feminism gone too far?

Sat, 27 Nov 2004 00:18:16 -0800

Let's all agree that we don't want to go back to a time when women had fewer legal rights than men, but has feminism gone too far, and what has its effect been on intimate male-led relationships?

A reality check for critics

Fri, 26 Nov 2004 22:55:23 -0800

Is it true that a good man would not get rough with a woman who likes that? Or that women who want to be dominated are misguided and naïve and will end up getting abused? Or that they should settle for a bit of spanking, DD, or BDSM instead?

Love and fear

Tue, 23 Nov 2004 22:27:33 -0800

In this fabulous article, DeeMarie argues that while love and fear might be incompatible emotions for some people, for others those two things are perfectly compatible.

Asserting dominance physically forcefully

Thu, 21 Oct 2004 01:03:58 -0700

Many women have little or no interest in being spanked but would enjoy being overpowered physically by a man. Who hasn't enjoyed rough-and-tumble ‘wrestling’, pillow-fighting, or tickling with a man who is much stronger?! So for those who are interested, here are some imaginitive physically forceful ways of exerting control.

Dominance and forcefulness, and violence

Tue, 19 Oct 2004 23:42:24 -0700

In this fascinating piece, DeeMarie considers different definitions of the word “violence”, some appropriate, others entirely inappropriate in the context of Taken In Hand.

Dominance, integrity and needing to feel superior

Fri, 22 Oct 2004 01:07:31 -0700

More thoughts about dominant men and the mistake some insecure men make in thinking that being dominant means being right, superior, better than women.

Alpha male dominance

Sun, 17 Oct 2004 03:17:43 -0700

In a Taken In Hand relationship, the purpose of any physical force there may be is not correction but connection through dominant control. DeeMarie argues that if a man wants to be spanked, he has submissive tendencies that will be repulsive to some women reading Taken In Hand.