Taken In Hand - Stephen

Why is commitment important?

Sat, 19 May 2007 07:28:01 -0700

Stephen explains what men are missing sexually when they fail to take into account the importance of commitment.

She wants him to prevail

Mon, 03 Jul 2006 12:10:40 -0700

Women who want to be taken in hand often feel very frustrated if the man doesn't appreciate the importance, to her, of consensual non-consent.

A man in charge needs to be firm and steady

Fri, 07 Apr 2006 00:03:34 -0700

Stephen has some good advice for men who want to take their wives in hand.

Is spanking necessary in a taken in hand relationship?

Sun, 18 Sep 2005 12:49:58 -0700

Stephen explains why the answer is “yes” for many Taken In Hand couples.

On being the servant-leader in my relationship

Wed, 29 Jun 2005 06:18:35 -0700

Stephen keeps in mind the “servant” bit of “servant-leader”. No wonder his wife spoils him!

Is the discipline focus limiting your relationship?

Fri, 15 Apr 2005 10:05:58 -0700

Taken In Hand is not about disciplining a naughty wife, and if you view it that way, you will probably eventually find it unsatisfactory. Stephen explains why.

Taken In Hand - intimacy and romance

Wed, 16 Feb 2005 09:53:13 -0800

Stephen on how Taken In Hand intimacy creates lasting romance.

Don't wait too long to tell her

Tue, 14 Dec 2004 00:47:45 -0800

When should you tell a woman with whom you are in a new relationship what kind of relationship you want? Stephen explains why the answer is not too long.

My wife cherishes me

Tue, 07 Dec 2004 14:41:18 -0800

What does it really mean to cherish a man? Stephen evidently feels very cherished by his wife.

To be taken

Fri, 13 Aug 2004 01:59:32 -0700

In his eminently reasonable, calm way, Stephen takes up the discussion I started with my article, When rape is a gift. He argues that for some women, there is something very primal about being overpowered by a strong man.

About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawal

Wed, 25 Feb 2004 12:28:02 -0800

In this fascinating article about love and life, inspired by the film, About Schmidt, Stephen relates some vital insights he has gleaned over the years.

How I turned the fantasy into reality

Sun, 18 Apr 2004 14:43:31 -0700

After the demise of Stephen's marriage, he was determined that his next relationship would be different. He knew that he needed to be the head of the household. Having found a woman who wanted that, he then set about turning the fantasy into reality. His major concern at first was how and when to use discipline. It is one thing to fantasize about giving a disciplinary spanking, it is another matter to actually give one, especially to the woman you love. But his new wife wanted him to be firm, and not just as a game.

Obedience

Sun, 02 Nov 2008 14:25:35 -0800

Right from the beginning of their relationship, Stephen's wife wanted him to wear the trousers. She was not interested in a relationship based on so-called equality. She expects to be obedient. To her, obedience is not only a matter of respect for me and our relationship, it adds an erotic charge to daily life. Yes, obedience is sexy. It is romantic. It creates passion!

Laying the groundwork for other possibilities

Mon, 30 Aug 2004 02:52:56 -0700

A good relationship makes it easier to be a better parent, a better friend, and a caring member of a larger community.