My husband and I have been married for ten years. I have been a stay-at-home mom for the past nine years. I feel very blessed to be able to do so. However, lately I have been feeling sort of caged. I really haven't done anything for myself or had any alone time.
My husband has had a few nights lately where he has gone golfing or met a buddy for a beer. Well, last Thursday was one such night. Now I have to tell you, normally I wouldn't have minded a bit. I know he needs his time just like everybody else. And it usually doesn't happen frequently anyway. But this particular day I was an emotional mess. I let it all build up. I started resenting him for doing what I needed to do for myself.
It's not like he keeps me in lock down and doesn't let me do anything. Quite the opposite. He tries to encourage me to do things for myself and he's quite willing to take care of the kids so I can get away.
Still, I just sat there and stewed until he got home. He immediately knew something was wrong and tried to talk to me. I just got angry and went off. He calmly left the room. That of course ticked me off even more. “Sure”, I thought, “go into your cave and ignore me some more!”
To make a long story short, as the night went on he made many attempts to try to calm me down. He tried talking to me some more and even tried giving me a backrub which just made me cry uncontrollably! (I told you, I was a mess!) But I couldn't explain to myself why I was acting the way I was, so how could I explain it to him? All rationality had left the building! He finally went to his office and so I sat down on the couch and started watching a chick flick!
About five minutes into my movie, he came into the living room, picked me up, threw me over his shoulder, carried me into the bedroom and threw me down on the bed. He then jumped on me, held me down, and began pleasing me and had his way with me. He was very loving yet firm.
Once we were finished, I felt this sense of calmness just flow over me. I felt so connected to him. He totally knew exactly what I needed. I have to tell you, before we discovered Taken In Hand, he never would have done that. We both would have stayed disengaged and gone to bed unhappy. I feel so lucky to have a man who can see, when I can't see for myself, exactly what I need and will take action!