As a psychiatrist I can state that mental health professionals do not share one set of beliefs concerning Taken In Hand Relationships.
To some professionals and many others, Taken In Hand relationships can be thought of as providing a unique method of eroticisizing conflict—turning displeasure to pleasure. Frequently couples in conflict physically withdraw from each other, which is often more painful to both than any spanking.
Taken in Hand provides a man with the opportunity to turn towards his wife with honor during conflict, because he has immediate evidence of the respect shown him by his wife's trust in allowing him to spank her. Spanking serves as an immediate outlet for his anger and the subsequent lovemaking is the catalyst that transforms the bad feelings to good.
Relinquishing power frees a woman from her fear that her husband will abandon her or lose interest. Repeated conflict poisons relationships. When anger is not channeled into something more positive, such as passionate love, homeostasis can only be maintained by dissociating from the anger or by ceasing to care. And when positive emotional engagement has gone, the marriage is effectively over, even if not legally over.
Her relinquishing control invites correction, control, and chivalry from a respectful man. And her respect for him as a man, in her act of submission to him, virtually guarantees his continued erotic interest in her. The termination of conflict in the act of lovemaking is the glue that binds Taken In Hand couples together.
There are many ways of cementing relationships; none necessarily better than others. Mutual love, shown by Taken in Hand couples, is the best proof of the efficacy of this philosophy of intimate relationships, regardless of the arguments of those who do not understand it.