Institutions and structures such as the various forms of patriarchy are an affront to the commanding man. When society privileges the male without regard to his actual qualities it creates a society of bullies and thugs whose excesses are excused because such abuses are culturally acceptable.
Being dominant is not about being a bully, having power invested in you just because of your gender rather than because of personal skills, competencies and disciplines devalues the dominant position.
I have three daughters and I have ensured that all of them have the skills, and fortitude to be able to choose their relationships and not to be structurally dependent on any men for their well-being. If someone wants a relationship with any of my daughters they are going to have to be able to command her respect and not rely on patriarchal advantage.
I believe that all women should have rights, and equally important the means to access and enforce those rights. There is nothing inconsistent about Taken In Hand and women having rights.
I expect my wife to constantly choose to remain inside my domain because in that place she finds peace, security and the freedom to be herself... I do not see trapping women culturally, financially or otherwise into any relationship as being acceptable.