The expression 'Taken In Hand' implies that a woman may need to be actively controlled from time to time, and won't always be completely docile and compliant.
A woman may love a man, and want him to be in control, but won't necessarily be a complete pushover. She may sometimes be resistant.
she may sometimes be irritable, sullen, bad-tempered etc. She may react sulkily when told off about something (I mean 'I' rather than 'she' in this case). A man who gives up at the first sign of resistance won't go far with most Taken In Hand inclined women.
I, for instance, fully intended when we started this, to be cheerfully compliant with all my husband's wishes in domestic matters, never to neglect the housework, always to tidy up, never to argue when he told me to do something etc. However, I found it did not work out quite like that in real life, and I have often found myself being resistant despite my intentions. My husband, however, does not have any trouble coping with this, and I usually cave in pretty quickly once he starts cracking the whip. If he was not prepared to do this, and just lost interest at the first sign of resistance, we would not have got very far.