One thing I do differently now that my husband is taking me in hand is to give him the respect that he deserves. This is a complete change of attitude for me. I used to be one of the people in the complainer clubs. You know—a bunch of moms together talking badly about the bumbling fools who were their husbands. I think my husband would be shocked to know some of the things I shared about him in these "bit**" sessions. I have stopped doing this. Not out of duty, but out of respect. Also I feel I have little to complain about. I no longer see my husband as the bumbling fool who does these inexplicable things. I no longer roll my eyes at the things he decides to do.
I think one thing I do for him is to always be available for sex now. I do think this is an important part of my husband's wellbeing. I had heard old women talking about this, and I had thought it was absurd. Why would I have sex just because he wanted to? I have learned that it really makes him happy, and I have found that making him happy makes me feel good too. What is different now is that I consider his happiness at all. I never really put much thought into it before.
Being taken in hand has completely changed the way I think about my husband and our marriage. My whole outlook is completely different. I never really considered what he wanted, now I consider what he might or might not like in most of what I do. He does not ask this, but I find myself doing it anyway. It is a big change. It is the opposite of the way we were before. Only now instead of neither of us being happy very much, we are both happy most of the time. Funny how it is working out that way.