I think most women, not all but most, seek a man who understands that family is not a social event and that the resposiblity of it is on both partners 24/7. There will always be good times and bad. There will be laughter and tears. But if there is trust and love, respect and accountability (by both partners), then there will be a lifetime spent with someone that is friend as well as lover and few if any regrets.
If you men think the feminist movement has tied your hands in the way you feel you have to deal with women, you should be in our shoes. I did not have a say in the feminist point of view, yet I am affected by it daily. I am a RN and have either to deal with the "I am God" doctor personality, or "You're a woman, you should be able to do it as well as any man" type. I was raised a lady, expect men to be polite, open my doors, escort me to my car or front door. There is just something highly unappealling in a man pulling up to the curb and honking for me to join him. Call me old-fashioned if you want, but to me it is a total lack of respect or caring to see our teenage girls today put up with that. I do not like to impose on men, but I always tell one thank you if they do something as casual as open a door for me, even if I am perfectly capable of doing so myself. It is a gesture of respect to me as a woman. It is an alpha male doing something for someone he does not see as inferior, but in need of some sign of caring from him, even if we are perfect strangers.
Many of us from the 60's/70's era, have conflicting views on what roles are male and female. Yes many of us girls went to college not because we wanted to but because it was expect. Many of us tried to be the super mom/professional/wife that all the ads of that day said we should be. I still think some man had a hayday making those up to rub the impossiblity of it in the feminists' noses. As you and so many others of the men who respond and write, most of us females are tired of trying to fit the all or nothing profiles men seem to think we want. Most of us are loving, caring, individuals that seek companionship and guidance from the men in our lives. We do not always want to be equal, but we will insist on being partners. Yes most of us may be professionals, but does that mean we do not like to be feminine, having the big strong male for a mate, a man who sometimes insists on things his way? Absolutely not.
To you hunting men out there, take my advice. Keep looking. You will find the right woman, but like a diamond in the rough, you will need to do a bit of precision cutting and polishing to find her. We are much more restricted in how we act and what we are allowed to say. If we desire a strong man who takes charge in our relationship, we are seen as weak. If we do not have equality (and here I mean complete equality), we are seen as ignorant or stupid. It is difficult for a man to navigate the waters that have come up from the flood of feminism. It is near impossible for the woman. So I encourage and urge you men to learn to listen to your instincts. Watch how we act, listen to the meanings between the lines when we speak. Even read our books. They are written by women for the most part and if there were not so many of us like minded, do you really think they would sell so many of them?
Finally, I urge you to be honest with us. Most of us can take most things as long as there is truth between partners. Most of us male or female have been in a relationship where honesty was absent. It is the most damaging of all to a relationship and by being up-front early on in your relationship, you will find most of us ladies are longing for your type of man.