My wife often wears pretty, feminine dresses and skirts but she, like some others who have commented on this site, sometimes prefers to wear masculine, tough-guy wear, like her black combats, black turtleneck and black Dr. Martens. She even buys actual men's clothing.
My wife was reading stuff on the internet about how for women to attract men they have to wear pretty, feminine dresses and skirts, and she was surprised by that, because she's noticed that just as many men appear attracted to her when she's in her tough-guy wear as when she's wearing her very feminine dresses. I have often told her she looks hot when she's in her tough-guy gear, so she asked me why I find it hot whereas according to the internet I should find it a turn-off.
Her tough-guy outfits are attractive to me because they are tight-fitting down to her hips, emphasizing her really narrow waist and very feminine chest. The way clothes shape a woman is really important to me, whether she is wearing something ultra-modest, conservative, girly, or hard-core. I told my wife that unless the woman is wearing menswear that hides her female shape, men know what’s underneath all of it. I find it cute and funny when girls try to be all tough and aggressive in their attire, because their femininity can't be hidden by dressing up as a tough guy.
My wife looks so cute in my sweaters too, despite the fact that they are so big for her they swamp her so she has to turn up the sleeves several times. Perhaps they highlight the fact that she is much smaller than I?
Why is there this idea that girls need to dress like girls to attract men? Is it that some men feel threatened by a girl dressing up as a tough guy, or is it a myth? Isn't femininity something that shines through the toughest of tough-guy dress-up?
Women, you don’t have to just dress in girly ways. If a man is intimidated by that and so does not like you because of it, it tells you more about him than you. Indeed, if you're single, dressing up as a tough guy might even help you to screen out the insecure men from those who will be confident about their ability to handle you.
Now, I have nothing against a sweet summer dress at a July 4th parade. But for a stroll in the town, you can’t beat Dr. Martens.