This site tends to attract a lot of disapprobation elsewhere on the net. What do you all think of the discussion linked below?
The article itself is clearly written by someone who has never read this site, judging from the alleged ‘quote’ she made up (or perhaps it is a third party's idea of Taken In Hand—it is certainly not mine anyway), not to mention the paragraph suggesting that we advocate ... well take a look at this (be warned: it is very sick and twisted):
Taken in Handers practise what they call "consensual non-consent", which basically boils down to physical and sexual chastisement, up to and including rape, as punishment for the woman's transgressions. It apparently doesn't matter if she screams and cries throughout her ordeal, no amount of pleading is going to make the "punishment" stop: by dint of the fact that she's in the relationship in the first place she's deemed to have consented to any mistreatment and abuse her husband doles out.
Holy shit!!! Talk about malicious misrepresentation!
Most of the comments following the article are also by people who have not the slightest idea what this site is about (and I don't blame them for not wanting to familiarise themselves with Taken In Hand after reading Cath Elliot's hatchet job on it!), but a couple of posters did politely argue with the nannying authoritarian feminist line that any woman whose choices in life differ from the authoritarian-feminist-approved ones are thereby self-hating collaborators, resistant to their own emancipation, betraying women in other parts of the world where women are not free, agents of the patriarchy, complicit in their own oppression, irrational, uneducated, and so on and so forth. (Oh for goodness sake! Get a grip, ladies, get a grip.)
Read Cath Elliot's Guardian article and all the comments following it but please understand that Taken In Hand is absolutely nothing like Cath Elliot portrays it.
Oh, and don't miss Mendoza's laugh-out-loud comment about the wife getting her chains polished.
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