Some Taken In Hand women need to be physically overpowered by their man. They need to know without any doubt that resistance is futile. And they can only discover that by resisting, and experiencing the futility of that resistance. They need to be able to be their strongest, most powerful self, and yet still be overpowered by their man. They need to know that the man has the ability to control them actively, and that a bit of resistance won't make him crumble, sulk, or stomp off in a tizzy. They need to know that his control is not all talk.
This can be very annoying or frustrating for some men. If a woman claims to be submissive (though note that most Taken In Hand women actually claim not to be submissive!) why doesn't she just do what he says? Does she want him to control her or doesn't she? Why should he control her if she does not submit? Isn't it disrespectful of her to resist?
No, actually, it is not disrespectful, it is necessary. Not for everyone—evidently there are women elsewhere who do not resist and who feel no need to do so—but in the Taken In Hand world, most women at least initially do resist, and need to resist, and actually, most men here actively prefer a resistant woman, as Eric put it.
Whether the need to be bodily overpowered is inborn or a product of our culture, it is undeniable that many women in our culture feel that need. Biologists might say that it is about testing the man's strength to ensure that he will be able to protect the woman and her children. Religious people might point to Genesis 3:16, "Your desire for me for your husband, and he shall rule over you." Some might say that women desire to be raped and ruled by men. Others might say that being bodily overpowered creates more emotional intensity and more pleasure than when a man does not do that.
Whatever the cause, it is a fact that most Taken In Hand women feel a strong need to resist and to be thoroughly and completely overpowered, during the establishment of their Taken In Hand relationship. They want “non-consent”—actually consensual non-consent. Being thoroughly overpowered enables them finally to relax, to feel peaceful, to experience the man's control as being real and reliable, not just a game.
And it is fun! Whatever do some men have against wrestling and overpowering the woman they love? Where is the fun in having a doormat yes-woman for a wife, when you can have someone a bit more challenging and interesting and fun? Just how fragile are their egos, anyway?!
OK, OK, forgive me—that was a terrible joke: it is not that their egos are fragile, they merely have different preferences.
Just don't think that all men have the same preferences, because they don't! Some men actively prefer a resistant woman. Many men enjoy the challenge and do not feel threatened by a strong woman who needs to be overpowered. They enjoy making the woman see that resistance is futile. If you are a woman who doubts this, do talk to men on this site, and read the quotations section. Don't think that you have to give up this aspect of yourself in the name of submission. The state achieved through the husband's active control is so much better, so much deeper, so much more fulfilling—for the man as well as for the woman.