Passionate conquest

What another writer on this site controversially called rape I'd rather call a conquest.

Imagine, if you will, that a committed, loving, Taken-In-Hand couple decides that they want just that: a little competition of the wills, so to speak—a friendly contest—exhibition—of physical power—one where the winner 'takes all,' if you dig. ;-D

In this excursion, he agrees to, with a safely limited goal and her continued safety in mind, 'unchain,' if you will, more of his physical capacity than she has previously been privileged to experience, in order to safely, and yet still wholly physically, constrain her, and overcome her, his wife, whom he loves, in order to inexorably prevail in entering into her in love.

And in this excursion, because of her desire to more fully know his physical power, she resists strongly, to be challenging and worthy of conquest, simply to require his better efforts, in order to experience the strivings required for him to overcome her; to discover his superior strength and the surpassing passion which can spring out as he desires to know her and to take her, even as she is losing at their match.

It is a great and deep privilege for those women who desire it to experience at first hand more of the strength of the man to whom she has entrusted her safe-keeping.


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Inspired writing!

What a sensual, evocative piece of writing! It stimulated my mind with visions of ancient gods and goddesses of love. My heart raced with the possibilities of how I could best maximize the metaphor and it generated a heat that would only be quenched by my ardent husband.
Thank you!

I like this article a lot! Ve

I like this article a lot! Very powerful and moving.

I'm far more comfortable with calling this kind of interaction conquest, personally. calling it rape leaves a bad taste in my mouth; rape CANNOT be consensual. but that feels right. :)

Wonderful article. It is very gripping, and really gets to the heart of the matter of what you're trying to address.

Thank You

As a rape victim (at the age of 15 by my then boyfriend, no less) I found the "other" article very difficult to read, although I knew the writer's intent. You reworking the situation into a conquest is much more palatable. "Rape" needs to remain a word for which there is no positive association, no comfort level, no situation in which it is "okay." On the other hand, a conquest... now that I can imagine taking place with my husband in a completely loving manner. When I am being stubborn and bull-headed, his pushing the physical intimacy issue eventually calms me down, quiets my arguments, and brings us closer together, despite my annoyance at first. This is as you term it, a conquest, not a rape in which there is a victim who in no way wants what is happening. Thank you for your new, properly worded description!


Everyone has their own opinion. I am as open as I can be to my husband and never refuse him. But I was a rape victim, and I agree with you and think it is awful to use that word as something, anything good. If you had actually experienced it, you would never throw around the word rape for fun, ever.

Of course

Of course that's lovely if you're both into that although I've always been so much weaker than a man any resistance lasts about two seconds.
In fact I am terribly lucky that in my entire adult life I've never been in a relationship in which I didn't give continuous consent to sex. Not everyone is so lucky to know their own nature at such a young age.


Never in a million years would I use the word "rape" to describe something that involves consent.

Thanks for the good language suggestion.


The word "ravishment" is already in pretty widespread use, to denote the kind of loving, romantic, consensual "rape" that you're talking about here. The word "conquest" is also good, but it's a much broader word, that can refer to many kinds of things besides just forceful sex. I also like the word "ravish" because it sounds so romantic and dashing.

(I just entered "ravishment" into a search engine, and there were about 120,000 hits; including one right here at the Taken In Hand site. Entering the word "ravish" gets more hits, but they're not as specific and relevant.)