Ownership as bonding
The idea of ownership may be troubling because it conjures up notions of indelicacies such as slavery (chattel-like property) or the Stockholm Syndrome (identifying with one's captor) as well as other forms of victimization.
In reality, ownership within the bounds of a monogamous relationship may be more wisely considered as an intense bonding in which two become one.
While I do not own my wife in any legal sense of the word, she knows that she belongs to me in an exclusive bonding. At the same time, there is no other woman in my life—and has not been for almost forty years.
Ask my wife if I own her and she might reply that I do. At the same time, she is quite aware that she possesses me as well.
Over the years, we have become something more than either of us could have been on our own.
Comments
What a beautiful post
Submitted by Eva on
Wow, what a beautiful post.
I hadn't thought of these feelings in these words before, but I've experienced them. It's really lovely to hear them expressed as beautifully as you have expressed them.
Thanks Noone, this clarifies and gives perspective on some of your other posts that I've had some gut-feeling trouble with...
As ever, all the best.
Beautiful!
Submitted by Jayda on
Q now owns me in every sense of the word in that loving bond that you describe.
And through this 'ownership' our relationship has reached new heights and are forever becoming more as a couple, than separately.
Isn't finding this place of joy and contentment a wonderful experience?
Being Owned
Submitted by rapier on
Ownership in my opinion is a beautiful thing. I happen to love that my fiance owns me. I would have it no other way. We have such a bond that I cannot describe. I have never had a relationship such as this and now I know what I have been missing all these years. I am definitely his willingly.
rapier
The word 'protection'
Submitted by a Taken In Hand reader on
The word 'protection' covers a lot of ground, includes physical protection, financial protection, emotional safety, etc. Yes it is a very beautiful thing....we do tend to protect what we own; yes a man can 'own' a woman.
As a man I do have to say tha
Submitted by Gandalf on
As a man I do have to say that ownership is vital to the relationship bond. I want a relationship where I own her completely and where I am owned by her completely. There is something very sexy about being about to say "this is MINE and no other's".
While there are obviously some unhealthy variants of this, I think in a large way it provides an impetus for a man to protect, provide and empower what he feels is his. This in turn makes the woman feel protected, provided for and empowered.
So that in owning, he has the sense of belonging.
Nice!
Submitted by a Taken In Hand reader on
Loved the post by Noone, and what Gandalf said too. "Protect, provide and empower what he feels is his." Where can I get me a Man like this?
Beautiful!
Submitted by A. Hayes on
The last line, "Over the years, we have become something more than either of us could have been on our own." is simply beautiful.
Owned as desired and protected.
Submitted by Dagny on
Those things earned in life have a sweeter savor than those handed out freely.
In my mind this encompasses gifts given by those whos friendships I've earned. My husband has worked hard for everything we own. He likes us to stay free of debt. For the most part we have succeeded in this.
When the decision is made to invest in something we would like to own, I tend to be the information gatherer, I deliver this to him and he makes the decision. He takes very good care of anything he desires enough to aquire with hard earned money.
So, I do feel owned in a sense. Desired, aquired, and cared for. There are worse places to be. He earned my trust, my soft side, my inner self. I think of it as a long term investment.
Sometimes he makes a payment late, or the goods aren't delivered on my end, but so long as he catches up on his late payments, and I get the delivery kinks worked out we keep on moving.