It is one thing to obey the laws of the land, but it is quite another to choose to obey someone when you need not. You have to obey the laws of the land whether you like it or not: you have no choice in the matter. A woman who enters into a Taken In Hand relationship does so of her own accord, often indeed (in my own case and others I've read here) at her own suggestion. This seems to me extremely perverse, even though I have done it myself. Why choose to obey someone when you need not? It is a curious choice.
Still more curious, from my point of view, is the fact that I positively enjoy having my husband tell me what to do, even when it is apparently to my own disadvantage. For instance, there was an incident recently at a French motorway service, when he forbade me to go in the shop. Even though i wanted to go in the shop, and was slightly sulky at being told I couldn't, i got a distinct thrill from obeying him in this instance. It would not have been at all the same thing if there had been a sign over the door saying "No wives allowed in the shop" (though my husband would probably say that would be a good idea). I would not have got any pleasure at all out of refraining from going in the shop in that case.
So for me, at any rate, there is a vast difference between obeying the law simply because it IS the law, and you want to avoid trouble, and obeying my husband when there is no legal obligation upon me to do so. It is a curious and perverse pleasure.
Have you seen the following articles?
Do you 'meet as equals' or 'establish roles from the outset'?
Do you have the patience to make your marriage work?
How we have stayed happily married for over 30 years
How we stopped fighting and became happier together
Obedience and autonomy
Offering an olive branch
The crooked path to where we are
The dance of consent
Do you have a commanding presence?