I think one thing I do for [my husband] is to always be available for sex now. I do think this is an important part of my husband's wellbeing. I had heard old women talking about this, and I had thought it was absurd. Why would I have sex just because he wanted to? I have learned that it really makes him happy, and I have found that making him happy makes me feel good too.
My own feelings about sex since becoming Taken In Hand are rather different. Having sex just because he wanted to is something I used to do occasionally in the past because I didn't want to hurt his feelings. (I generally found that I got in the mood once we'd started anyway, even if I wasn't before.)
One of the big differences about being Taken In Hand is that now I no longer do this, because I find that there is never a time any more when I don't want to do it, I'm turned on by him now all the time. This is terrific. Having sex just because he wanted it is something that belongs to my pre-Taken In Hand life rather than the present.