Is Taken In Hand bad for women who were abused in childhood?

No. An established Taken In Hand relationship may even be healing for some women with a diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. Such women do need to take exceptional care, when trying to find someone with whom to have a Taken In Hand relationship, to avoid ending up with an antisocial, narcissistic, abusive man, as such men are likely to prey on vulnerable women who want to be controlled by a man.

It's not really natural for either of us

Sometimes it is positively unhelpful to think in terms of natural this or natural that, especially when we are talking about couples switching to a Taken In Hand relationship. People are not immutable entities, they can and do learn and change. They can grow together, as Lucy and her husband seem to be doing.

A smile man

I was once struck by the way an elderly woman's face lit up and became beautiful when she smiled. (And no, she did not have the gleeming white teeth of an American TV presenter!)


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