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A Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the coupleEarly on in my relationship with Gary, I had no idea what submission really meant. I was recovering from a very serious operation, and I had no concept of what recovery really meant. I was gung-ho for getting as much as my life back as I could, quickly. Gary was adamant that I should get as much rest as I needed. In retrospect, he was very much right. But I was stubborn, and had no idea of what being taken care of meant yet. So he put limits on my activities: one activity a day, and only with his permission so he would know if I was going to hurt myself trying or not. Now back then, even taking a bath needed the aid my homemaker. So you get the drift, everything was a hazard to me. And one fall would put me right back in the hospital. But life kept on happening bed ridden or not, and eventually, after one commitment too many, Gary put a huge punishment on me. I had to call him after any phone conversation I had, after any visitor, after just about anything that remotely resembled a decision. And I was not allowed to make a decision without a discussion with him! I was mortified. How do you tell your physiotherapist that you had to make a short call before you can schedule your next date? Needless to say, I was not perfect at calling Gary. It's almost impossible to not make decisions, small or big, and call each time. But such was the nature of the punishment. On the third day of this, I had just received a phone call from a neighbour who was just going for her final examinations in Reflexology, a form of massage. She had to do certain amount of ‘Practical Time’ to pass, and the sessions were of no charge. She knew I was not well and she wanted to practice her skill on me: her effort was to help, and she wanted me to schedule a date. Well...I made an appointment. But then I had to call Gary and tell him. Frankly I tried to bamboozle him. But he's not easily led astray; his mind is built for big business. So, finally, in complete misery, I told him the truth and why. He was completely quiet on his end of the phone. In utter dejection, I asked him what he was going to do with me. I mean, I had disobeyed with intent, there. His answer? He knew I felt bad. And he also knew that I was not likely to forget this anytime soon. His response to me was this: “Now is not the time to come down on you. You feel bad enough. We can talk about this another time when we are together. Thank you for telling me the truth. I love you.” And I started to cry. But it also led me to plead for this punishment to be taken off, which it was. This set the tone for our relationship. To this day, he has never been hard on me when I make a mistake. It does get resolved, but I have no fear. And in turn, I do not come down hard on others when they make mistakes. It's often shocking when I lend support to someone when they know they are in the wrong. But that is my own personal idea of how a Taken In Hand relationship reaches beyond the couple to include others in the positive aspects. Have you seen the following articles? Why is BDSM so popular? Happy living in fear of a man?! Communication The paradox of the master and the queen Out of control, insane, driven by our emotions? No way! Give me intensity or give me death! Can you be Taken In Hand if you're not submissive? Secretary: the film My husband's calm control makes me feel submissive In praise of Fascinating Womanhood How is this different from other male-led relationships? 2005 Sep 21 - 09:07 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article | permanent link
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