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It's like this, beloved: I need to be spankedOwing to some misunderstandings in regard to this piece, may I stress that this is fiction: it was inspired by a question posed on one of the DD groups by a woman with a husband who sounds lovely but who had not cottoned on to her desire for a serious whipping now and again. I myself do not have a husband of any description, I am single! My dear husband, I have something to tell you. This is possibly the most important letter I have ever written to you. OK, OK, so it is the only letter I have ever written to you – but humour me, will you? This is important. No, I haven't been up to no good with the milkman (though that strapping young man who is his son might be difficult to resist!), and no, I don't have any (more) complaints about you, and no, I haven't gone to the Dark Side and joined a religious cult or started using Microsoft products. I don't know whether you have noticed, but I have been a pain in the backside lately. Actually, you don't seem to have noticed. And you know what? One of the things I totally love about you is that you are so serene, unruffled, and even-tempered. I love how you never lose your calm – it makes me feel so safe and relaxed and happy. Never change! But given your marvellous imperturbability, I have realised that I need to be more direct when making requests. Telling you in words would be a good start. You can't be expected to be a mind reader – though you so often seem to know what I'm thinking... especially the other night when you.... well anyway, where was I? Oh yes. Important Information to Impart. Do you remember the other day when you were lying on your front watching that that old black and white film I wanted us to see – The Vagabond King – and you thought I must either have got the wrong film or that I must have completely lost my marbles? And you know how, when you complained and wanted to watch the rugby instead, I grabbed that wooden ruler and whacked you on the bottom with it? (Yeah, like you could forget that!) Well the good news is, I haven't turned violent, I was just trying to get a reaction out of you. I wanted you to get physical with me, really physical. I wanted to experience your considerable size and strength in a bit of old-fashioned wrestling roly-poly rough-and-tumble slap-and-tickle – with the emphasis on the “slap” bit. What am I driving at? Goodness, this is difficult! I want you to put me over your knee (or on the bed, on the couch, or anywhere really) and – not to put too fine a point on it – give me a jolly good thrashing; and then give me a jolly good seeing-to, as only you can. And I don't mean just a one-off: I'd like this as often as your age, inclination, health issues, work commitments, and required TV viewing, will allow. Incidentally, when I say “thrashing”, I mean hard, using all your strength! Really! (Just think, you can get an arm workout without going to the gym!) And I mean everything from spanking to whipping. I know you wondered if I'd taken up riding when you saw that I'd bought a riding crop. And you must have thought it a bit odd that I suddenly felt the urge to buy a set of extra strong wooden spoons – obviously, it couldn't be for cooking, given my singular lack of interest in that department! And then there is the old-fashioned schoolmaster's cane that appeared on your night table and that you asked me to remove. You didn't wonder about that at all? And since I am coming clean here, you know how I've been behaving more and more like an irresponsible schoolgirl of late? You know – I've unaccountably started forgetting to take my mobile phone with me when I go out, I've been not getting enough sleep, and on more than one occasion I have become so engrossed in er… my er… ‘internet research’, that I have quite forgotten the dinner cooking in the oven (hence your recent characteristically mild enquiry about whether there is some medical benefit to be gained by eating charcoal). Well first let me say once again how much I appreciate your imperturbability. I greatly admire your equanimity in the face of what would have driven lesser men to seek solace in the arms of a divorce lawyer. Forgive me. I don't want to irritate you – and evidently it doesn't work anyway! You're so solid and sensible! My rock! (And gosh, what a rock! Swoon! But enough of these irrelevant digressions.) The reason I have been doing all these things is not a sign of encroaching menopause or early senility, it is that I have been wanting you to take control and take me in hand, and this was my way of attempting to communicate that to you. Yes, I know, I know, what's wrong with the direct approach? And how did I expect you to guess this particular interpretation of my out-of-character behaviour? I concede that it hasn't worked at all, and I feel quite silly for having done this, and more than a bit remorseful. I am so embarrassed! I don't know why, but it has taken a lot of nerve for me to pluck up the courage to tell you this. But now I have, might it be possible for us to talk about it? Do you have any questions? Is this something you could do? Can we have some fun with this? Yours, as ever, Etc. [Husband reads the letter…. I look to see how he is taking it, and wonder how I am ever going to be able to introduce the idea of more serious ‘discipline’ to him if we can't even manage to get to grips with the light-hearted fun variety….] Hey, you're smiling! Splendid! Oh how lovely! What shall we…. [Swoon… My hero....] Have you seen the following articles? Secretary: the film How we got past the year from hell The worm turns (a little late, but better late than never!) Happy living in fear of a man? How it felt to be taken in hand for the very first time A love letter The paradox of the strong and submissive woman What works for us What easy-to-say word gives every lover pleasure? Never do without sex again |