First there were the boys... then there was Bobby

I was once married to a man who was dominant (now deceased sadly) and 23 years my senior. Most of the time other women would hint at what they were thinking – “What is she doing with him?” As a successful, educated former beauty pageant winner I sometimes wondered that, too.

Bobby took me.

I had developed the ability to intimidate men... and I am a spoiled brat. When a man would approach, I would just look through him, like I was bored, and then play. Wait; watch him. Most moved on, some killed themselves trying to bring me something, anything. Bobby walked over, and when I looked bored he stepped right into my space and didn't break my gaze.

It was like in Dee's article, The submissive alpha female, except that he didn't arm wrestle me, he challenged me to a pillow fight. LOL! Of course he won. We were married within two weeks.

Bobby only spanked me seriously, twice. The first time was because I danced with his best friend: somehow I didn't think “dance only with me” meant slow songs. The second time, I purposely disobeyed his only other rule: I wore ‘his’ underwear instead of the white cotton ones to college, which just infuriated him. The reason I did this? I wasn't getting attention from him; he was working late. I was scared he was losing interest, all normal fears for a wife. The next day I felt so secure sitting in a feminist lit class wearing my ‘granny’ looking underwear.

Abusive? Hell no, I was never so babied in my life. Other women would comment on my loving husband, the perfect gentleman. He adopted my daughter and treated her as his own; he was the breadwinner. I was supported, cherished, valued.

I think if I had been submissive or passive or softly spoken The Taming of the Shrew would not have been so interesting. I have started dating again and I am back to gazing, as if bored, right past most men. Its nice to know that there are still men out there who know how to be men.

P.S. You can't surrender control without having the trust necessary to give over care and custody of yourself to another. There is a difference between dominance and an asshole, I would never surrender to a man who didn't know how precious that is.

Bella899

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There's a big difference between being in charge or dominant and being an asshole, but there's alot of men who are dominant assholes. It's a jungle out there. I'm happy for you your experience was better than mine!

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