In Dr Pat Allen's view of a covenant relationship, the masculine-energy person (usually the man) gives to, protects, and cherishes the feelings of the feminine-energy person (usually the woman); and the woman respects the man, accepts his leadership and gracefully receives what the man gives her.
Some readers might question whether the men considering this relationship would find Pat Allen's idea of the masculine-energy position appealing, and some might say that, compared to the alternative of reducing one's woman to the maternal servitude and solicitousness to which one has become comfortably accustomed by being raised by women up to and past one's majority, it is indeed not an attractive or particularly agreeable position to adopt.
It is, however, the obligation of the maintenance of a man's integrity, a man's self-concept—if that concept involves the realization that masculine authority (male supremacy) is premised and legitimized upon male responsibility toward his woman.
Of course, the universal human ambition is to enjoy authority without responsibility and to impose that responsibility upon those not given the corresponding authority. Many women have been raised to accept this arrangement with respect to their husbands, whatever the responsibilities imposed upon the wife. But many another woman has now come to hate and reject this inequitable and inappropriate state of affairs—hence the feminist variety of the revolution which contributes to the further declension of societal order and survival.
If, as a masculine man believes, the good order of society depends, inescapably, upon the judicious, intelligent, forthrightly truthful use of power (historically and properly a masculine prerogative, burden, and authority), then the reactionary dis-empowerment of women toward eliminating the societally destructive effects of radical egalitarian feminism involves the general resumption of masculine responsibility and equity (in appropriate form) toward women and wives.
This means that the complementarity of which Pat Allen writes and speaks is realized, in terms of responsibility and authority, in the relief of wives from responsibility—for anything—if men are to equitably claim authority and thus to be truly worthy of respect. No cooking, no cleaning, no having to earn money, other than that which the wife merely feels like doing of these routine familial activities, so that she might genuinely feel cherished rather than enserfed.
In classical terms—men, who are men and worthy of respect, are warriors who go out and take slaves brought back for their women to put to work at domestic activities. In more modern times, of course, servants are paid to perform these activities to which women, wives, and lesser males are otherwise put.
But few men are materially capable of sustaining this arrangement, so wives must work and/or act as the missing servants—and are correspondingly resentful and at least casually contemptuous of husbands who rightfully lose their wives' respect and grant of authority. The natural complementarity of an aristocratic existence dissolves under the pressures of the common man's penury.
And so Pat Allen's complementary covenant relationships for heterosexuals, fully realized in fact or in spirit, have little appeal or practicability for any but a few unusual men. My own circumstance is one where my wife and I do not want the presence or expense of servants in our home, so there is much servants' work to be done by ourselves, inside and outside. In assuming authority in our family, I am responsible for the doing of all such work, and I personally do at least two-thirds of it as a matter of obligation toward the doing of the whole, my wife doing the remainder merely as she pleases.
Reference: Dr Patricia Allen: Getting to “I Do”.