Different strokes for different folks
Being protected and cared for is something most Taken In Hand women want, but many do not want their relationship to involve ‘correction’, ‘discipline’, etc. That is an optional extra.
I have toyed with the idea of ‘serious’ discipline since discovering the world of DD and , but have come to the conclusion that it isn't for me. I have always found being spanked erotic, and that is how it remains for me.
If I didn't want to exercise, there would be no way that my husband could beat me into doing it (he would be the last man in the world to do this anyway, since exercise is anathema to him). I try to do things that I know will please him, and not to do things that I know annoy him, but that's because I want to please him, not because I'm afraid of being beaten if I don't.
Some women like being pinned down on a bed, etc. Others, like me, would find this rather alarming. I find my husband's ability to exercise control over me mentally more interesting that physical control, which is no big deal. He's bigger and stronger than me; so are most men – so what? It's the fact that he can flick that switch within me and make me feel submissive with just a word or a look that I find exciting.
Today's society is more flexible than it ever was in the past, and people have greater freedom to choose different kinds of relationships than they ever did. No one kind of relationship suits everyone, and the male head of the household kind is just one kind.
Not all women will want the same thing, not because they're afraid of their feelings or in denial or anything, but just because it simply doesn't suit them.
Have you seen the following articles?
The alpha male and masculine power
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Empowering dominance
Obedience
A reality check for critics
A strong willed woman wanting a man to lose against
The Surrendered Wife, by Laura Doyle: a critique
The coming battle
Taking her in hand is not a contact sport
Could this kind of relationship be for you?