The impossibility of installing a spine in a pansy
After the flak we've been getting lately, I was pleasantly surprised to discover that The Yeti described Taken In Hand as: “A very cool site about married people.” Must be being sarcastic, I thought. (Well gosh, we seem to be regarded as in need of psychiatric help by even the nicest, most open-minded folks.) But to my amazement, I don't think he was being sarcastic. Take a look at what The Yeti says:
As women are constantly reminded to avoid conflict, it is only natural that they are impressed/attracted/drawn to men who seemingly break all the rules and do what they could never do. The men also seem to pay less of a price for their refusal to bend to authority.
Eventually, the woman reaches the point where she needs the bad boy to start doing things. [...]
Women are attracted to assholes for two reasons. One - Women want a MAN. Someone who makes decisions, follows their own course, isn't afraid to speak his mind, has a purpose in life, protects his family and friends and country, and treats other people with respect when they deserve it. They can not stand a pansy. When confronted with the choice of an asshole or a pansy, they will always go to the asshole because at least they have a shot at tempering his rough edges. It is impossible to install a spine in a pansy.
[...] The asshole is at least proving they have some spine. Sadly, the asshole only stands up to the woman pre-relationship. Thus, the woman is either frustrated that she can't get the man into a relationship, and then disgusted with his complete surrender if she can.
Evidently there is wisdom out there in the blogosphere beyond Taken In Hand! In a comment, The Yeti added:
My point was women want real men. These are in short supply, though there are plenty out there.
Enquiring minds on this site would like to know where they're all hiding, Yeti.
UPDATE: Immediately after finding and mentioning The Yeti's kind words about Taken In Hand, I discovered not one but two pieces singing our praises, on Spanking Blog. Don't miss them!
Have you seen the following articles?
Secretary: a deeper understanding
Do you have a commanding presence?
Blanket consent
Is he who (or where) he says he is?
How can I be sure that she wants to be taken in hand?
To let go
Finding the right man
Don't forget your whip
The missionary position
Women want men who are more dominant
Comments
#1 Spinelessness
The Yeti said: "Women want a MAN. Someone who makes decisions, follows their own course, isn't afraid to speak his mind, has a purpose in life, protects his family and friends and country, and treats other people with respect when they deserve it. They can not stand a pansy. When confronted with the choice of an asshole or a pansy, they will always go to the asshole because at least they have a shot at tempering his rough edges. It is impossible to install a spine in a pansy."
What a perceptive insight. How true!
#2 Perceptive?
I don't think it is all that perceptive. There are plenty of women who are married to meek and gentle men and who seem quite happy with that. Not all women want the dominant type.
The idea that women prefer assholes is actually highly insulting to women, it implies that all women are fools. Which I don't think they are. Certainly some women do go for assholes, but I don't think that applies to the majority.
Louise