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Taken In Hand accolades“[S]ince the day I [discovered Taken In Hand] I have rediscovered my feminity.” “[Taken In Hand is] a necessary read... Very complex, lots of power shifts, combining respect with pain, and pleasure. Domination roles. Submissive roles. The whole shebang. I'm glad I found it.” “Taken In Hand... is the name of a website that I discovered less than two years ago and which made a big difference to my life. It made me understand what it was I wanted and helped me to come to terms with my own feelings and gave me the impetus to talk seriously to my husband about our relationship for the first time ever really. The site is about male-led relationships which do not necessarily have to involve spanking. The owner of the site is more interested in other aspects of male control. There are a lot of interesting articles on the site.” “Taken In Hand is male led but male intimately led. ... I do like the Taken In Hand focus on family and the focus that marriage is between one man and one woman. That is actually very important to me.” “[I]n Taken In Hand, I am enhancing and extending my power as a woman, and enriching my life and personality. I give up NOTHING, and gain the world.... [M]y perception of Taken In Hand is that there are few other venues that can compare for teaching men the responsible, healthy uses of power. It gives men skills and confidence they can use not just in their sexual relationships, but also with their children, in their professions, and out in the community. Taken In Hand requires a far higher level of courage, sacrifice, responsibility, and personal integrity than many so-called ‘doms’ will even think to aspire to.” “Taken In Hand is about having the man in charge because you like it like that, it's not about blind obedience or never having your own way about anything.” “I feel the best spanking site is Taken in Hand. 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[...] For women who have longed for a relationship such as this and have no idea where to start, this is a great site for you. For men that want to better understand the whole concept from a women’s point of view, this site is a must read.” “It's a great site.” “If you think my perspective on dating isn't politically correct you should go read Taken In Hand. [It has] posts with titles like, When rape is a gift. You go, girl. Defy those hairy-armpitted feminists and enjoy yourself. :)” “great site.” “There are lots of websites for people in the BDSM, D/s, DD (domestic discipline) and spanking communities. There are websites for people who belong to religions that advocate male-head-of-household marriage. There are even websites for Christians who are interested in BDSM. But there are very few websites for people who are interested in male-led intimate relationships but who are not interested in all that the above communities associate with this kind of relationship (jargon, clothes, etc.) “[Taken In Hand] is really the most beautiful website devoted to DD.” “[Taken In Hand] is my major kink” “[Taken In Hand is an] erudite and intelligent site” “[Taken In Hand is a]n excellent site with many thought-provoking articles and responses.” “[Taken In Hand is] one of the most exciting sites on the internet!” “[T]he whole damn site really is one of the most well articulated (pro/con) loaded blogs I've seen. It provides a cross section of how people are feeling out there even amongst those who are ‘seemingly’ natural allies.” “As I view it, I'm a control freak. I love to be in control. However, I fantasize about that control being stripped from me and handed over to someone else....namely, my husband. I'm just glad I found a site that makes me realize I'm not a freak for wanting to be dominated” “I was delighted to receive word of Taken In Hand. ... a very thoughtful and well-written group blog. ... I'm looking forward to reading through this blog the way I look forward to reading a new novel by a favorite author. It looks that good.” “Wow. This site is so amazing.” ““[Taken In Hand is] a wonderful website ... from a MaleDom/femsub perspective ... [I]t's about the interpersonal dynamics of loving relationships where the man is the boss. [I]t's assumed that both partners are in it because that's what they want and have chosen. Also, unlike many other ‘traditional marriage’ sites, it's not coming from any sort of biblical perspective. ... Some of the best writing I've seen on these topics, from a variety of authors.” “[Taken In Hand is] a brill resource.... for info articles... and real life experiences” “A very cool site” “Thank you for providing such a positive, validating place for like-minded people to talk about this in a way that affirms the dignity of both men and women” “a great site” “an exremely high quality site... I highly recommend [Taken In Hand].” “fantastic site” “Intéressant à lire” “Un site remarquable” “[Y]our site rocks!” “Visit Taken in Hand for a lot of good thoughts. I think you'll find them useful even if you don't use corporal punishment.” “a wonderful site” “the best there is” “The answer to every single discussion is there. Best piece of text I read ever...And it rings SO true.” “What a wonderful website. ... [S]o much of this I can relate to my life. ... It has been a while since I have read a website that was ‘different’ than most.” “GREAT site” “Website of the Month” Other |
Greetings from a Spanish Taken In Hand coupleI have been with my partner for two years, and for the last nine months we have been living together. We used to describe our relationship as BDSM 24/7 but we realised that that label is not accurate. And when we told people that we have a 24/7 BDSM relationship, they took that to mean a slave under the orders of her master 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and that isn't quite how we see it. We used to consider our relationship a D/s one, but since we have begun to live together we have discovered that it is difficult to think of our relationship as being simply D/s. We found that we wanted to apply to masculine dominance and feminine submission not only in special moments, games or sessions, but in all the daily things that we do, in the simplest everyday tasks. In addition, I do not want a submissive woman, less in her faculties, incapable of making decisions, with a personality constantly needing the approval of her companion. Neither do I want a woman who lives exclusively to serve to me. That is not the type of woman that I hope for in my companion. On the contrary, I love a total woman of faculties, of capacities, motivated permanently towards the future projects that jointly we decide. I love a woman who is a full part of those projects by which we have been united and we decided to live together. I love a woman who so considers my tastes, and my desires, that she completes me in those things in which I have deficiencies. Finally, I want a woman who is perfectly responsible and takes the initiative in some from the labor areas that we share and in certain familiar areas like the administration for the home. Perhaps, therefore, you can understand why the opinions and theory of Taken In Hand are of such interest to me despite the fact that my language is not English but Spanish, and the site is in English. We have discovered that our relationship, for the reasons I have given above, is not BDSM, and as a result, we also have the problem to find people in Spain with whom to share our way of life. Taken In Hand affects all the facets of the life of each individual. This it is our point of view. And within the facets of the life of the people it also affects relationships with other friends, etc... It is necessary therefore – and this is also the opinion of both of us – to share the restlessness and experiences with other people and couples who understand or are in a Taken In Hand relationship. I think that it is necessary to find people with whom to share these ideas, in order to avoid the Taken In Hand relationship being extinguished by the things that to each one happen to us daily: familiar and labor stress, fatigue, obligations... The reality of life imposes pressure on our relationship to meet the conventional norms. As one responsible for this relationship I need the support others who can help me in the reminder of the norms of our form of life, that is to say, the reminder to me of my responsibility for my partner (mood, care, protection, love) and the one of her to me (obedience, recognition of my authority, acceptance of my discipline, recognition of my care, protection and love). Taken In Hand, from my point of view, needs to be subtly remembered every day. Between man and woman there is an interchange of tacit signals that remind each of their respective positions and responsibilities to the relationship. I hope this explain how alive and wonderful our relationship feels. Have you seen the following articles? The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance What kind of site is this? D/s? TPE? CP? DD? ABCD? No more waiting! The resistant woman Why is this desire so powerful? Wanting a masterful man Is the man's authority real if consent can be revoked? The anchor of love Dealing with a man who doesn't do as he's told When rape is a gift 2005 Mar 3 - 12:13 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article | permanent link
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