Taken In Hand means different things to different people

If you are in a relationship and you want your husband to take you in hand, there is a lot to consider. Taken In Hand means very different things to different people. You need to get sorted out with your husband exactly how much control you are both comfortable with for a start. Some women like having their husbands in charge of the finances, for instance; others might find this tiresome, or might have a husband who, like mine, is appalled at the very idea. Some women like to be very closely controlled, but I would find it very irksome if I thought my husband was watching my every move. You need to decide how much control you want, and how much your husband is prepared to use.

Then there is the question of whether your Taken In Hand relationship will include any ‘discipline’. This is another thing you need to get sorted out. There are those who seem to seriously believe in ‘non-erotic punishment’ (this is a DD idea, not Taken In Hand, as you can see if you read this article). I find the idea of non-erotic beatings deeply repellent, but nevertheless get a kick out of the idea that I am ‘really’ being punished when my husband spanks me, even though both of us know that the ultimate effect is always erotic, as the boss says. There are other Taken In Hand people who do not want any kind of disciplinary aspect to their relationship. It will not do you any good unless it's something you really want.

Some women apparently like the idea of doing whatever your husband tells you even if you find it silly or humiliating. I don't feel that way about it myself, and if my husband were always telling me to do things I disliked I don't think it would make for a very happy relationship. I like to feel that he cares about my happiness as well as his own, and that he isn't using our Taken In Hand relationship to just get his own way all the time. That would be an abusive relationship, not a Taken In Hand one.

If you are considering having a Taken In Hand relationship, I wish you luck in sorting out what you want.

Louise C

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Have you seen the following articles?
I don't want to be a servant or slave
The face, the mask, and the dream
The dual failures of men
Why would anyone want to be controlled by a man?
About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawal
In praise of Fascinating Womanhood
The worm turns (a little late, but better late than never!)
Liberated through submission
Maybe these surrendered women are on to something
The alpha male and masculine power

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