It is working as advertised!

When I first suggested to my husband that we try having a Taken In Hand relationship, I didn't think he'd get it. I thought he'd either think it was a joke, and make fun of it, or use it as an excuse to just order me around all the time.

But neither of these things happened. Instead, it really seems to have worked out the way it's described on this site as being supposed to work: it's made us more open and honest with each other, it's improved communication, it's eliminated stress, it's put an end to the awful rows we used to have.

We don't have a lot of rules and regulations in our relationship, I try much harder to do things that I know will please him, and not to do things that I know annoy him, and he appreciates this and in turn doesn't lose his temper with me any more. If something bothers me I tell him, because that's what he wants. If I'm not happy with something, we can usually reach a compromise.

Louise C

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Have you seen the following articles?
Is there consent?
I want it all, and I want it now!
The difference between dominant and domineering
Why being taken in hand helps
Seduction of the independent female
Help! The changes show! What should I tell people?!
Has feminism gone too far?
Communication
Letter to a potential partner
Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp?

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Louise, you are an inspiration to us all.

Keep writing here. Your comments make me think more about what I want. I don't always agree with you, but I do think about whatyou say.

Sharon

An inspiration?

Crikey, I've never been called an inspiration before! Thanks Sharon!

All of those things are true

All of those things are true for our relationship as well. As I just commented on Stephen's post, having the freedom to be honest and open is a great blessing. Far from feeling constrained my the relationship, I feel so much more freedom in all of my activities and more sure of myself. Charlotte

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