Wow, a spanking and some hot sex? I'd go right back out and wreck the car again!!

Now if he were really in charge he'd take your set of keys. ;-)

AlphaMaster

I'm with the boss on this one. It seems to me that if Louise wanted to learn how to drive she would! She wouldn't be stopped by her husband and she would tell him where to go if he tried. Apparently for whatever reason she's comfortable not driving.

I thought maybe it was a cultural thing. In the US only woman in their 80's never learned to drive but practically all other women can. Perhaps in England it's different.

The first time I read that Louise didn't drive in an earlier post I wracked my brain trying to think of why. I thought it was either cultural or a health issue. I couldn't think of any other reason. It certainly never occurred to me that her husband wouldn't allow it. Her posts never read that way to me.

Keep posting Louise. I love your humor and style. Also on a more serious note sometimes you make me see an issue in a way I hadn't thought about before which is always good. I hate to be stuck in the rut of only seeing the world one way. That's what I love about this site. Lots of opinions are expressed in many different ways.

I'm the only one who drives in our household. My boyfriend grew up in a big city where public transportation was the best way to get around. He is also from a state that had graduated license procedures. Since his parents didn't have a car for him to practice driving on (he needed so many practice hours to get a license), he never got his license. I, on the other hand, needed to have a license to get around. I'm originally from a city where the only public transportation is taxi-cab, and nothing was really with in walking distance. I had to have a car to get a job. Now I'm the only one who drives because he is self-employed and works from home. I need a car to get to work. We have talked about him getting his license though, but I'm a bit afraid of what it might do to the insurance premiums. God knows it would be nice to have an extra driver on long car trips though.

I think we may ba taking this a bit too seriously. Certainly women have the ability to drive, and we certainly should have the right, but it isn't necessary in every location, nor in my mind is driving a sign of dominance or submission. It's just this very utilitarian thing we do to get from point A to point B. Given a choice, I wouldn't do it. When I hit the big game the FIRST thing I'm going to do is hire someone to drive me around. It's not because I feel it would make me more submissive. It's because I have zero sense of direction and really dislike driving. Especially that thrusting myself into traffic at highspeeds part. I'll never understand the fool who dreamed up the highway system. First they tell you that cars are heavy dangerous objects. That you are in fact driving a deadly piece of machinery. Then they tell you that the best way to get on a highway is to take your suicide machine up to highspeeds and thrust yourself into traffic, all the while trusting that the nice people in that lane will either move over or slow down to make room for you. Kind of seems like taking your life into your own hands to me. The only reason I do it is because I have to. If there were any other affordable way to get to work, the grocery store etc. where I live, I wouldn't do it at all.

I drove Vermont to Michigan in one stretch. Not having an additional driver can be hard... but that's not exactly daily driving either.

I swear Louise if you stop posting here I may end up never coming back, just joking, the boss.

Honestly Louise most of the time I read your posts and shake my head in frustration and then the strangest thing happens, I start to see things from a different perspective and usually end up laughing. I was wondering if your husband thinks all men drive like they were born to it or if he gets frustrated with all bad drivers.

It sounds to me like you and your husband have a 'dry' sense of humor, I love it.

Dear Louse C,

To be honest, when I first discovered this site, it did cross my mind that 'the boss' might actually be a bloke who had set up this site in order to lull well meaning and 'trying to be honest in what their desires were' women into a false sense of security..

I'm no good with all this new technology - it takes me all my time to hit the 'send' button. I am merely a product of my upbringing and life's experiences.

When I read 'Stephen's' posts, however, I am comforted - because he seems to understand where I am coming from, and his words and thoughts actually bring tears to my eyes.

Louise, maybe it's because I come from a different generation to you - although if you are in your forties and me having just hit the fifty mark, I cannot see that much difference.

But that is because I really am new to all this, and I am so sorry if this offends you........or makes you think I am stupid.

I don't trust people much, actually. But that is probably to do with the life that has been dealt me.

So, what is this all about with you?

Lois Lane.

P.S. I haven't had an accident in the twenty odd years I've been driving, either!

As I am licensed to drive both in the United States and the UK, I can attest that the process of obtaining a license in Brittan is much more rigorous than in the USA. The written test in the UK actually requires no small measure of knowledge and is quite comprehensive. The actually driving test is a rigorous affair, putting emphasis on maneuvers which are actually illegal in the State where I reside.

One of the first things I did upon taking up residence in the UK was to contract with a driving instructor for five lessons per week till I felt confident with driving on the opposite side of the road, sitting in the opposite side of the car, and managing such things as roundabouts (which, by the way, are brilliant).

I feel quite confident that even a woman like myself, who thoroughly enjoys being taken in hand by her big, strong husband, is more than capable and competent to drive. These complimentary desires we of the Taken In Hand persuasion possess, allow us to fulfill our counterparts' emotional needs. In my opinion, that doesn't mean I need, want or deserve to be viewed as a lesser human being, lumped into a wad of other female humanity in an indistinguishable mess called, "All Women." What a sad state of affairs that would be!

There is a core of unshakable strength within many of us(male and female alike) that allows the women to acknowledge the desire to be Taken In Hand (not taken for a fool), and the men to admit to wanting what society vehemently claims they must not (a testosterone powered relationship). We are vulnerable enough in our rather retrospective relational requirements as it is. Why add insult to the very people with whom we have the most to gain? I'd prefer to sing praises for the opposite sex, especially those willing and able to come to terms with their own psyches.

Some men are good drivers. Some women are good drivers. See men drive. Drive men, drive. Woman can drive. Drive women, drive. Okay, that's how it sounds to these particular ears when the competence of females in general is denigrated. That isn't my definition of Taken In Hand (though I will try very hard to respect you if it's yours). It just seems silly. Some people don't want to drive. Doesn't mean they couldn't, just means they don’t' want to. Perhaps that fits well in the relationships of some Taken In Hand couples.

I just conceded to a firm request from my husband not to do an activity which I would very much like to try. After listening to his reasons and finding them sound, I decided I'd allow him to guide me, and I'd willingly follow. He didn't have to insult me. We respectfully made our feelings known to one another. He appreciates that I bend to his will on important things. I appreciate that he cares. If driving had been the activity in question, his judgment would take a back seat to mine. I drive. Not even my big strong man can take away my right to do so.

In England, the public transportation system is far more comprehensive than here in the US. It's easier not to drive when trains and busses are everywhere and affordable. Here in the US, especially remote locales such as the sprawling ranch land I call home, it's almost essential that everyone who's able knows how to drive.

Cultural differences create scenarios that may seem totally foreign and subsequently unacceptable.

I think I’m beginning to lose the plot here. What I really want to say is that there are some really terrific differences between the two sexes that can make for some memorable exchanges. I just think we all stand a far better chance of engaging in some of those delightful encounters if we focus on the positive nature of our differences, rather than trying to insult one another. I guess I get the feeling that when a person attempts to raise themselves up by stepping on someone else, both parties lose.