I guess it's hard for men to understand how badly, how strongly, some women (me, for instance) want a man who will, in the general sense, more or less take charge and, the specific sense, enforce his authority by giving me a good spanking. A real one, and not a few taps—and do it for good reasons and sometimes for no reasons. Just because he can.
And what's harder to understand, I guess, is that it's the most difficult thing imaginable to ask for. So far, I haven't been able to. I'm single now, so there is nobody really to ask. But when there has been, and the subject came up (only a couple of times, in passing) I have blushed red and felt my throat close from pure self-consciousness and, frankly, desire.
Also, I wonder: Will he want to? Will he be appalled? Uninterested.
Look, I want it. A lot. And I want him to want it, to really enjoy it, too. To get into it. To love it. Like I would.