Why would a switch be better than a rattan cane?

And I know someone who needs to have a talk with you.

"Pat"

How do you get switches?

A switch is simply a cut and possibly trimmed tree shoot.

If you are worried about marks or skin breakage, you could do it through clothes, or be a bit careful how hard you do it and make sure that there are no sharp bits on it. But really, if you don't want any marks at all, switches and other thin implements are probably not for you. They do tend to leave stripes, even if only relatively briefly.

I hope this won't start a switch-hunt.

Please share your experiences of giving or receiving switching here. I wish to discipline my wife using switching.

We tried this for the first time recently, after the boss piqued my curiosity by asking if I'd ever tried it. I rather recklessly suggested it to my husband, and since he always enjoys a technical challenge, he made one (we have a very nice silver birch tree in the garden, which provides satisfactory material).

My experience is that it stings a lot, it's just as painful as the paddle, but is a different sort of sensation. At first my husband complained that it didn't give him any feedback like the paddle, i.e. it was difficult to tell whether he was doing it too hard or too soft or whatever, whereas with the paddle he can tell by the impact, and colour change ("if I do it hard enough" he says "you get a sort of white glaze on top of the red").

However, he seems to have got to like it now, he says, somewhat to my surprise, that he finds the marks he leaves on me erotic (he's always been very squeamish about bruising, but switch marks don't seem to affect him in the same way). If your wife likes the idea, then try it.

My husband and I read the articles on the switch and found them interesting. I had been making little comments about a switch for quite some time. "Oh look, our tree has some branches that would make a good switch!" My husband would just ignore me like I was being silly. Another time I mentioned something about a switch being fun to try. He said he thought it would cut me and I wouldn't really want that would I? I answered that no I wouldn't like that because I wouldn't really like to have cut marks. Yet the idea of the switch IS really erotic. I love the picture in my mind and I also thought it would be painful enough that I would feel really submissive before, during, and after, which is what I love.

So after having read the articles on the switch we were out walking and of course what should we find but a branch suitable for switching. Not too tough when walking amongst trees after a storm! We brought it home for some playtime (I hoped!). My husband trimmed it down after I explained it would need to be peeled. I guess he is truly a non spanko because it seems any ideas for new implements always come from me. Interestingly enough though he is the one who picked up the switch off the ground and carried it all the way home. Wow, that alone was quite a turn on!

With the kids all tucked in sleeping and us in our caps (well not really caps, we have a pretty good heater thus no need for caps) we proceeded to get to business! The switch really did sting and I did jump around and Ouch! Ouch! quite a bit. Yet with the excitement of trying something new and the fact that it didn't hurt too bad just stung quite a bit I was giggling while I yelled ouch (the ouches were real, it really did sting). He tried turning it around with the thicker side switching me but then the damn thing broke and that was the end of that.

So we finished up with the glue stick (a rubber "stick" that goes into the hot glue gun for crafts) that is in fact an excellent implement for those who need a quiet implement. It will leave welts if used hard enough and has brought tears to my eyes many a time. It will bruise if used hard enough but doesn’t usually do so. When used properly I will usually have the three A's or the fourth A as well if it is a real punishment and not just play.

So I guess if my husband wants we’ll have another try at a thicker switch possibly made out of heavier wood. We found out that with belts the weight makes all the difference in the world. A light belt just makes me giggle and ow around a bit but a heavy belt used properly makes me howl and I am put into a submissive state very quickly (which is where we both want me to be!)

Happy Switching

My husband has never mentioned using a switch on me, so maybe he either hasn't thought of it or thinks it would scare me too much! He is 6'6", and I am only 5'3", so he sometimes worries about hurting me too much while he's disciplining me, which is sweet of him!

There is nothing better for a submissive woman to be married to a dominant, but kind and loving man, who knows what's best for his wife and family and isn't afraid to take charge.

I don't know if I should talk to him about using a switch on me. He decides how to handle my punishments and corrections, and I don't want to imply that I am trying to make that type of decision.

Also, since I am very submissive and obedient most of the time, he probably doesn't think he needs to use one to keep me in line. Feeling the sting of his spankings and slaps seems to be working pretty well for us! But, I have to admit that the thought of being naked and switched until I am jumping around and crying sounds very interesting!

The phrase 'rule of thumb' came from wood workers who were very skilled, so they could measure things with their thumbs rather than a ruler. Connecting it with hitting women is an urban legend.

How on earth do you manage to keep it up for that long? You must have incredible stamina. 5 minutes is about the maximum my husband could keep it up, after that he complains his arm aches. Also I think twenty minutes is rather too long anyway, I can't imagine what sort of physical condition one would be in after being beaten for 20 minutes. Also I think we might both be a bit bored with it after that length of time. My husband doens't like the switch, he says it "doesn't give any feedback" , he prefers more solid implements.

A 20 minute switching can be made slowly with ample dwell time between a reduced number of strokes. It could be just a toying or dusting of the bottom. Like the switch itself the session is flexible. Bottom line [no pun intended]is that a 20 minute punishment switching can turn into a delicious enjoyable sexual marital experience. The switch is pure delight.

My husband went out of town last weekend to a sport's tournament with our son. After he left, he called me to say I should look in my lingerie drawer for a present he had left. I was very excited and raced upstairs to look in the drawer. When I opened the drawer, there was a switch inside with a note. The note said: "You are my darling. I will miss you very much. I can't wait to see you again and have you across my lap. I hope you are not too frightened of the switch..."

I must have opened that drawer and touched the switch a hundred times over the next two days. I had a mixture of emotions, ranging from fear and apprehension to excitement.

On Sunday evening, my husband took me into the bedroom and gave me a lesson on the virtues of the switch. The "switching" was for discipline, but needless to say, it was quite erotic !

I ready your comment about not using a switch. This dialog is a little long but I hope it helps paint proper usage and a clear picture.

I love my wife. But she steps out of line often. Here is how “WE” deal with it:

Use of a spanking implement is in my opinion is the best solution for punishment. The simple fact of using an implement promotes a higher awareness emotionally not to mention the desired physical results. The question is a switch or a riding crop? A switch made from various tree branches is simple enough, but because it might have some rough edges and could become brittle, I strongly prefer a riding crop. A riding crop is flexible, short and promotes a very small leather looped end. Most of the rods are made of a composite material, (I believe fiberglass) and are covered with a tightly woven nylon or leather mesh.

The riding crop insulates you. This very fact means you have to understand how it is used. Get familiar with the weight, the feel in your hand and how hard and fast it will move. Practice using a pillow as a target. Decide how each stroke will land and determine the position you will need to be in. When you are comfortable, you are ready.

I use the riding crop on her bare bottom even though she is ashamed and knows it will sting, I prefer it this way. The target is her “sit spot.” I don’t hit the thighs or even the lower back. Preferred position: 1) Place her stomach over a cushioned saw horse, back of a sofa chair, low table or similar device that will support her weight and will essentially get her feet somewhat off of the floor. This makes her bottom very loose and supple. Her legs are slightly apart. I then restrain her hands and legs. A secondary position that is used is 2), place her on her knees on the bed with her back arched downward, cheeks fully exposed and turned upward and legs slightly apart. She places her head on a pillow. I sit almost 180 deg next to her – I am facing her feet. This position allows me to hold on to one thigh or place my arm around her waist.

I punish with a forgiving but firm hand.
I start slowly whipping carefully the sit spot area from top to bottom.
I apply light swats at first pausing between each one.
I build only on intensity not speed.
I visually inspect for redness where the stroke landed.
As I continue an increase the intensity, covering the same spot again, it becomes redder and usually welts.
If she is angry and hints rejection, she has not learned her lesson. I continue with harder lashes.
If the punishment is severe, she is not able to sit comfortably for several days.

Eventually, she will succumb and become forgiving. This is because she is truly sorry for her actions and desires to please me. As she submits, I cater to her whimpering and re-affirm my love.

Spanking your wife´s bottom 20 minutes or even longer is not a problem if you switch the switch to a bundle of about ten really thin, one foot long birch branches (of course without the leaves or knots). No bruises at all! The stinging sensation will be convincing your wife of your authority!

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Sigurd.

My wife is very, very rarely in need of genuine punishment, but gets concerned if I don't smack her bottom for a few days. I recently discovered that my cane collection have all dried out, leaving them stiff, and landing with a most unsatisfying thump, My crop has always been a very precision instrument, just allowing the leather tail to make a snapping contact, and has always been a favourite with me. Before I met my wife, I also used a dressage riding whip on a previous playmate, but had put it into retirement, as I believed it to be too severe. I recent used it on my wife, and was surprised to hear that she much prefered it to a cane. She has recently suggested its use a few times, and has likened it to a switch, thin, whippy, but will not break, and has no "nobbles". I find that it leaves her with a striped bottom - very erotic - but that the marks are gone by next morning, and I have a fresh canvas to paint on.

Hi, I read your comment on Taken In Hand and would like to know what other instruments you use that are quiet. We also have children and it is difficult to wait until they are all asleep before the spankings begine. Any advice would be great.