My fascinating journey

This journey I am a about to describe is one that I am still on. It is the journey I have taken after reading Fascinating Womanhood, by Helen Andelin. I began my married life at the age of 16. I was pregnant, full of ideals, totally in love, and completely confident I was ready to create the family life I had always dreamed of. Little did I know, that it would take years of struggle to find out just how to focus my efforts to achieve what I wanted so badly, a marriage grounded in Celestial Love.

It goes without saying that I was completely ignorant of how to truly meet a man's needs. I had so many things backwards. I was strong when I should have been weak, and weak when I should have been strong. It seemed the only times I could see true love in my husband's eyes was when I threatened to leave him. Only then, could I find that look of intense passion that burned inside him and made him seem almost angry for loving me so deeply.

Since reading Fascinating Womanhood, I have learned to grow up and be a woman about the things I needed to, and lighten up and be a girl about things I didn't. I no longer have to waste my energy trying to be what I want to be, what the world says I should be, and what I think my husband wants me to be. Now, I know what I need to be for my husband. FW gave me the key to finding out what went on inside him. It taught me what makes a man feel like a man. This is what they are all searching for deep in their hearts.

I feel this struggle is universal. Maybe we don't all have the same challenges, but we have equal suffering in our journey to find true love. If you think, like I did, that your marriage couldn't have been a crueler joke, than it's time you took a closer look. As women, we have invisible influence that can make or break a man if we only have the courage to try.

I have been married going on twelve years now, and we have four wonderful children. Our life is rich, strong and incredibly happy. My marriage is now what I always dreamed of. It is real.

I pray that those of you who are searching, but don't even realize you are searching, will read Fascinating Womanhood.

Cynthia Turner

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I'd like to know more about t...

I'd like to know more about this book. I heard it was not that good -- that it made little girls of women -- but if your experience is different I'd like to hear more!

by Jenny on 2003 Oct 19 - 20:21 | login or register to post comments

fascinating

Whats fascinating about this book is how strongly a man will react when you apply it.

How you no longer feel guilty for wanting to be just what you are.

There is feeling of back stepping at first especially in our world where people seem to be blending the sexes.

If you allow yourself to let go of that resistance its amazing.

My husband knows every time im reading that book. i dont tell him he just knows because everything is different. the way we react to each other, the peace in our home.

Its lovely, give it a try.

by a Taken In Hand reader on 2003 Dec 31 - 16:17 | login or register to post comments

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