Why would a women want to be spanked?
A woman's desire for a naked over-the-knee spanking is twofold. Part of her wants to be wanted. She wants to belong to someone who really cares about her. Part of her wants to be disciplined, cleansed, and perhaps even healed.
It is only at a level of getting beyond physical pain that spanking has any meaning. Otherwise, the exercise is a parlor game of make-believe of daddy's naughty little girl getting her bottom smacked for being very bad. A woman's emotional risks in pretending are no greater than going to the doctor's office, climbing up on the examination table, and putting her feet in the metal stirrups to have her private parts examined. Although exposed under the circumstances, she is not defenseless. She is steeled for the experience.
When a woman becomes vulnerable—and women become naked when they want to be vulnerable—she can feel whether or not she is loved. Her nudity is not so much a temptation for the man as a test of his character. Often, the woman is less aware of her state of undress as is a more naïve man. She sacrifices modesty for knowledge. After all, who or what a man truly is inside cannot be easily hidden from a naked woman!
The man who truly loves a woman is not always easy on her. There is a passion within him that burns beyond lust. It complements that of the woman in using her nakedness as a means to an end. The means is the spanking; the end is the relationship. So it is that the two can become one—which is what the woman wants anyway.
Although a woman may hate the idea that she needs a spanking, she will also often feel the need to be punished—wanting it to hurt and eventually despising a timid man—she seeks an experience that goes beyond being transformed from naughty to nice.
For the man, spanking springs from a desire to have the woman wholly—body and soul—coupled with awareness that this is how to have her! The man's involvement with the woman is not a business-like arrangement where one party can fire the other at will.
He wants this woman. He is active. She is passive, although she wants this man to have her. Together, they want each other.
Instead of seeking counseling or getting divorced, they work out their differences the old-fashioned way—on a very intimate and personal level. (Women never boast about having faked it during a serious spanking!) In the process, the man goes from what the woman admits is required to what she knows is necessary to get through to her. The spanking goes:
• from being erotic
• past anger (“That's enough. #$%&@, what are you trying to do!”)
• through being punishment (“Yes, Sir.”)
• to being a cleaning out of all sorts of emotional baggage that tumble out as a mixture of confessions and genuine crying.
Consequently, a wise man gives the woman getting spanked permission to say all sorts of things that she would never dream of revealing otherwise. The permission is not so much explicit as in his willingness to listen and understand whatever anguish she releases. The wise man will not hold anything she says against her as she expels whatever demons haunt her mind.
If the man gets down deep enough inside her—usually through a series of spankings that build upon the soreness in her bottom leftover from the last spanking—inhibitions go out of the window. Her carefully crafted mystique—her protective layers that keep just any man from getting too close to her—get stripped from her. She is psychologically undressed.
She is no longer her own woman. When he is finished, she is so weak physically and psychologically that she can be destroyed by his words.
At this point, the man can make the woman anything he wants her to be. He can make her a strong wife, a weak woman, a prostitute—anything. That is why women need to pick their men carefully. Because once a man taps into his natural power over a woman, she belongs to him.
Yet, if the man truly loves her, she feels joined in the ultimate consensual relationship.
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