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Consensual rape as a gift of control[For a full list of our articles and comments on consensual ‘rape’, see this page.] Both Stephen's article and the boss's article have really stirred up some interesting topics that really have nothing to do with the original point at all. And I have sincerely enjoyed reading them all. What seems a bit interesting is that so many posters aren't really addressing the true subject of the original topic... that of being given the gift of another form of control and dominance and submission in a relationship. There are so many forms of control... mind control, emotional control, and physical control, just to name a few. In most cases, the woman must exercise some control herself and choose to submit. Unless she is tied down, or up as the case may be, even submitting to a spanking is a choice she has to make even if she doesn't want the spanking. She still has a choice at that moment to submit to it or not. When a woman is physically taken against her will (and I am talking about in a consensual non-consensual way and am in no way talking about in a stranger off the street or in a fit of anger in a relationship way) something happens deep within her (in some women, anyway) that is very hard to explain. There is just something very humbling and eye opening when the man can control her and her body even when she is physically resisting. When I am lost in the struggle and fighting tooth and nail to not be taken, and my body begins to respond and my eyes grow wide and my face burns with humiliation and I fight harder and struggle to not let happen what I know is about to happen and he sees it and feels it and becomes even stronger in his insistence to have all of me… When my body explodes in release and I am still fighting and the knowledge and acceptance sweeps over me that in reality, even if I wanted to be free, my body will always belong to him, at any given time and in any given situation that he so chose… It's very hard to describe what happens inside me then. That kind of control is very different from other kinds of control and for some, it is important that they feel it along with the rest too. I don't believe it's about sexual repression or suppression or feeling ‘dirty’ or traditional roles or anything else. It is about being controlled and it does bring on a very deep and primal response that is very animalistic and eye opening to just who is who in the relationship. Or who is what in the relationship. Some women only want/need a small amount of control; others crave deeper control. And that is not implying they want or need to be micromanaged. They want to be controlled where the control is quite literally taken to a physical level. That is just one way it can be done for some. As far as it being a gift...God yes, it's a gift from the man to give us that form of his power and domination. Because as was stated in an earlier post, just the fact that one knows they can and choose not to is very powerful indeed. But to actually be allowed to feel it and live it is, after all, a gift from the one who has the power. What works for each of us individually and as a couple may not work for all of us. But...none are better or lesser than the other. We just are. Have you seen the following articles? Is your new man dominant, domineering, or a dithering wimp? Is there consent? A breakdown on the road to intimacy Real life leadership or rules and rigidity? Happy living in fear of a man?! On being a man Taken In Hand is not a lifestyle Safewords Do you have a commanding presence? What kind of site is this? D/s? TPE? CP? DD? ABCD? 2004 Apr 26 - 02:48 | add new comment | latest article | previous article | next article | permanent link
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