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Rape, rape fantasy, being taken, being ravished“I really applaud your article. It was brave and I think it will still be brave 20 years from now. Burying desires like that for fear of being labeled as ‘sick’ comes with its own damage and loss of self-esteem; and how feminist is that? Better that we are honest and examine it for what it is; because we are complex and all the answers on offer are currently insultingly simplistic.” - Remittance Girl Be warned that some readers may find these articles disturbing. Please only read these articles if rape is not a difficult issue for you. If you do choose to read these articles, or indeed any articles on this site, please note that nothing non-consensual or illegal is being advocated. We abhor abuse. There are very few places on the internet where people can talk about consensual rape/consensual rape fantasies without attracting disapprobation. I'd like to ask everyone for a little tolerance, because I do not want readers silenced by those who disapprove and do not understand. - the boss When rape is a giftThis is the article of mine that started it all. It is just about acceptable to speak of ravishing a woman, but the idea of taking a woman, or ‘raping’ her, is taboo and emotive. How could it possibly feel to a woman like a gift? And yet, many woman want this. As you can see from the number of comments, this article has provoked a lot of discussion. Bonded by rapeWhy does this disturbing idea have such a hold over so many women? And is it only women, or does it stir the odd man here and there, too? To be takenIn his eminently reasonable, calm way, Stephen takes up the discussion I started with my article, When rape is a gift. He argues that for some women, there is something very primal about being overpowered by a strong man. Three different experiences of rapeIf you don't believe that a woman who has experienced real rape would want this, Jayda's anecdotes and insights may persuade you. If you too have the desire to be ‘raped’, and this makes you “feel like a sick pervert” (as one correspondent wrote) this article may help. Consensual rape as a gift of controlDesire points out that being ‘raped’ is indeed a gift – a gift of control for those who want that. Is there consent?When a man takes or takes a woman in hand and she seems to be resisting and complaining, is there consent? It depends. She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!The casual observer might think that Taken In Hand readers are saying that they want to be taken or taken in hand against their will, but what is really going on here? An investigation of the psychology of consensual non-consent. Being taken in hand is hot!If you feel no sexual arousal at all during serious disciplinary spankings, how can it possibly be erotic? And if it is, doesn't that mean that it is all just a kinky game, and not real? Hit the read article link for my answers to these thorny questions. UnderstandingWhy would a man want to (consensually) rape the woman he loves? And why would she want him to? And why call it “rape” if it is consensual? Here is Aiden's poetic answer. Please do not hit the read article link unless rape is not a difficult issue for you. Enjoying consensual sexual aggressionOn the joy of consensual ravishment in a Taken In Hand relationship. SafewordsThis article is not specifically related to rape/ravishment/being taken/forced sex; nevertheless, the discussion may well be germane in this context for some readers. Doug has some interesting questions about the use of safewords – but in this thoughtful article, he concludes that ultimately it doesn't really much matter in practice whether a safeword exists or not. Have you seen the following articles? The alpha male and masculine power Who says you have to be submissive? Women want men who are more dominant The sexuality of ‘non-sexual’ dominance The Taming of the Shrew Help! The one I love nowadays rarely wants sex! Don't forget your whip The resistant woman I want... to be possessed Why you should not withhold spanking! He who dares, wins Do you have a commanding presence? |