Chemistry is indispensable

“Sparks” are indispensible.

How many of us have tried to make a potential relationship into something it really isn't?

Has anyone ever succeeded?

“Sparks” and chemistry are a result of the right two people mixing together and creating something that is more than the sum of its parts.

It is mysterious. It can't be manufactured. It can't be demanded. It is like a force of nature.

To settle for less only ensures you will never reach your full potential within a relationship.

To me, chemistry comes before any sort of relationship structure – even a Taken In Hand relationship.

The structure only enhances what should already be there.

Lori

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Chemistry

Lori I so agree with what you say. I have been in a non Taken In Hand relationship for ten years, the last five of which I have categorically known inside that this is not the relationship for me. It has taken me a lot of therapy and inner work to admit this to myself and especially the man I live with.

He can't understand how I can't feel right about the relationship and tells me that I am not 'trying' to make things right. The feeling is not there and I cannot create it out of thin air.

Thank you for putting it so succinctly. when the feeling is not there......it's just not there!

I disagree!

Lori,

I really disagree with your comments. My husband and I are very happy, have great sex and are raising 'his, mine and our' children in a happy, healthy home.

When we met, there was no spark. We became friends and from there started to date and eventually married. Every day I am more and more in love with this man. Every day the spark grows brighter - and I think that is how it should be... Time should bring you closer and increase intimacy. If you have that spark from the first moment you meet, it probably has more to do with lust than with love - nope, I don't believe in love at first sight.

But if that spark develops over time, you learn to enjoy each other's company; and you are truly compatible, the flame will come and flames last [hopefully] for a lifetime, where sparks fade quickly.

M-

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