A good marriage is a threesome

Despite popular notions to the contrary, marriage is a threesome. While most people understand the he and she, they tend to forget that the marriage takes on a life of its own.

One of my basic premises in Taken in Hand is that the husband should do that which is best for the wife as well as the marriage. Otherwise, it is too easy for the whole thing to become a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship in which there is a he and a she but no us.

To become one is both deceptively simple and incredibly difficult because it requires thinking in a third and intangible dimension. It requires seeing possibilities that are not always obvious from the outside.

Noone

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