The face, the mask, and the dream

Everyone has a dream mate, the ideal and ultimate partner to fulfil a lifetime fantasy. That rarely, if ever, happens in real life. When you have a relationship with someone, you actually relate to three persons; the one you wish to see, or the dream, the one you think you see, or the mask, and the real person, or the face behind the mask.

The spark usually, but not always, hits you when the dream comes very close to resembling the mask. Later, when you get better acquainted, you see bits and pieces of the face. Then the mask seems to change, or shifts in appearance, and becomes less like the dream and more like the face. If this shift becomes too radical, you can become very disillusioned, because you can't tolerate the difference between the mask and the dream, you can't allow this person to be human, because there is too much that clashes with the dream.

Most broken relationships come to a tragic end because they are allowed to become too deep too fast, while the mask still looks like the dream. Ideally, you want to see the face, but that rarely happens even in the most intimate of relationships. But it's good to wait until you are pretty sure the mask at least bears some close resemblance to the face.

KrosRogue

Take the Taken In Hand tour


Have you seen the following articles?
Being taken in hand is hot!
She wants to be taken in hand against her will?!
How I met my husband, and how that impacted my life
I want... to be possessed
Surrendered in love
About Schmidt: choose engagement, not withdrawal
Quiet authority
To let go
What easy-to-say word gives every lover pleasure?

This is such a great article.

This is such a great article. Thanks for writing it. It really clarifies some stuff for me in my life right now.

Jess

Lack of Patience and a Strong Desire

This is really a capsulized description of almost all of my relationships, with all throttle and no brakes. I hope it keeps you from making some of the same mistakes I did.

KrosRogue

Beautiful article, KrosRogue

My, that's a beautiful article, KrosRogue. It really made me think. Keep them comin'.

Comment viewing options

Select your preferred way to display the comments and click "Save settings" to activate your changes.